Boyfriend hates idea of taking Pole dancing classes?

Question

I recently told my boyfriend that I want to take poledancing classes... he is pissed. I told him it is only recreational i have absoultely no plans on doing this outside of our home and the facilities as I am a college educated woman and very successful. what can i say to convince him that i am only doing this because oprah had a lady on who showed its a great way to exercise and its only a hobby??? (very serious question)

Answer 1

I just love how some of the people answering your question keep relating Pole Dancing to Strippers! Any Way..
Pole Dancing is a Great Form of Exercise, You use muscles that you never new that you had, and it tones up more muscles than the TREADMILL as someone stated!
Also, You could not invite your boyfriend to come watch a class, you have to take in consideration of the other women in the class, do you think they would want sum strange man watching then exercise and doing pole tricks? It's not a Strip Club, its an Exercise Facility.
Why would he be pissed? Is he that insecure that he thinks that once you take the class and you realize how much fun it is, and great your body looks after the class that you will leave him?
Also, He is your Boyfriend, NOT your Father! You are your own person, with your own mind, with your own feelings. I'm sure there are a lot of things that he has done that you have not agreed with and it has pissed you off , but yet he went ahead and did it! Think about it that way, and go sign up for the class and have fun. If you really want to piss him off and you are dead set on it, go to www.Hardcorepoles.com and purchase a pole for your house.

Have fun , don't let any one tell you what you can and can not do!

Answer 2

don't take pole dancing classes... plain and simple.... or risk your relationship... see pole dancing is for strippers.... and I know Oprah said it was ok so millions follow that and it probably is, but in your boyfriend's mind it has a negative connotation. He will never be able to look past any of that. And since he is a guy, he probably loves strippers(as all guys do) but he loves to look at them and doesn't want to date one. I am not saying that taking a class makes you a stripper, but in his mind pole dancing=stripper. That is just the fact of the matter and you have to decide which is more important.

Answer 3

My gf took pole dancing classes right before I got with her. She liked it, but I don't like the idea of her fantasizing about being a stripper, or dancing for other guys. If I had a pole for her to dance on, I might not mind!

Answer 4

Very serious answer- you're boyfriend likes you and doesn't want you to be percieved as a hooker, plain and simple. A blessing from Oprah doesn't change the fact that pole dancing is done by strippers/video hoes/hookers to elicit money from drunk men looking for sex.
You're boyfriend is repectful and wants the best for you. Trust me when I tell you that this is NOT the best. There are a miriad of other exercise programs/classes out there that don't convey a message as blatant as pole dancing class.
And don't listen to girls who say "Dance for him and he'll like it". No woman should have to reduce herself to a sexual object just to get what she wants. Your boyfriend is with you for reasons beyond sex, right? You don't need to erouse your boyfriend to take pole dancing, and you don't need to act like a stripper in brightly-lit recreation center to get the body you want.

Trust him on this one. You have know idea how ridiculous you'll look doing this.

Answer 5

Ooooo i wanted to take those classes too...i heard it was awesome exercise! But anyways why don't you ask him to come to the class with you so he can check it out and see that there a lot of other women like yourself that do it for the exercise. Maybe if he went to the dance studio with you and met your instructor and saw what it was all about it would ease his mind. Just reassure him that you have no intentions what so ever to start stripping and that you respect yourself and him. What is he upset about?? He should be happy as hell...you could bring home your newly learned skills!!

Answer 6

Pole dancing is a really fun way to get in shape I've heard. Pole dancing in private or as a class doesn't make you a stripper!!! Please explain to him that you really want to stay in shape for yourself, for your health, etc. Say this is an easy and fun, recreational way to do it. Good luck with your new exersise routine!!! :)

P.S.-If he still refuses, you might start acting a but sensitive and weepy about your body and act like you have a low self confidence, and getting in shape will help. Hehe.

Answer 7

Try to contact the teacher and see if this has come up before with any of her other students. See if he can come to the first class to see what you're doing for himself.

He's thinking you're going to take what you've learned elsewhere. He probably doesn't understand that most people who take those classes are doing it for private shows for their men...often urged by the men in the first place!

If only you knew one of the other attached girls taking the class - you could have their man talk to him about it.

Answer 8

Sometimes you just have to let go of certain things for the other party. If it truly makes him that uncomfortable and no amount of reassurance about your motives will convince him, then maybe it'd be a good idea to make this sacrifice for him and the relationship. Maybe you could take it up when he gets more comfortable with it at a later time.

Answer 9

Why do you need his permission for this? He's your boyfriend, not your owner. Go ahead and take the class, then perform for him. If he doesn't like it, fine - do it for yourself.

But if he's trying to be controlling, and not allow you to do what you want, it's time to at least think about dumping him and finding someone else who will appreciate your efforts more.

Answer 10

Take the classes and show him what you learn. I don't think he'll be as opposed to the idea if you tell him you want to dance for him.