My friends neighbor told her that I was satanic because I see aura's why would my friend believe this?

Question

This lady had been my friend for several years! The first thing I said to her when I meet her was that she had a beautiful aura around her. This is what started our friendship. My friend called me the other day and told me that I was in league with the devil and she read from some book that her neighbor a J.W. had loaned her to get her away from me! I cried so hard that I was sobbing! I am not evil! I wasn't hurting that J.W.woman! Why would she destroy my friendship? I didn't think badly of them till this happened! Why do they think things like seeing aura's are evil? All of the old painting have aura's around the heads or whole body's! Were the saints evil? Do J.W. think these paintings are evil? Now I've lost my best friend! Should I repent like my friend and this J.W. say or just give up my friend to this cult?

Answer 1

I am sorry to tell you that your friend is mistaken and misguided. If you believe in a God, then pray that God will open this woman's mind. Otherwise, there is nothing you can do. If someone is so stubborn and closed-minded, you can't change their minds for them.


Oh, and just out of curiosity, how can you see auras? Is it a gift that you were born with, or is it something you can learn to do?

Answer 2

Obviously I cannot offer any absolute answer, but I can tell you what I personally would do in such a situation, and let you judge from there.

1. First and foremost, I would ask whether the friendship is truly destroyed. I would talk to this friend and ask what her feelings were about what she had heard. Is she planning on no longer being friends with you? Is she planning on discarding you as evil? Or is she perhaps just as distraught as you are, feeling as if she has been betrayed by someone she thought was a friend, but is now being told is evil.
¶If the answer is that she has indeed decided to end the friendship over this issue, then proceed to step 2. If it turns out that she is confused and distraught over the issue, then there is still room for reason to prevail. Gloss over step 2 and proceed to step 3.

2. Ask yourself if this is really a friend worth keeping. As others have said. Either your friendship means very little to her, or she is entirely too easily swayed by other people's opinions. I personally would not want a friend who didn't value me, and I also wouldn't want a friend so unable to think for herself that she would instantly consider me evil based on something she had read without getting my side of the story.
If you decide she is not worth it, cut your losses and stop here. If you truly believe that your relationship is worth salvaging, proceed to step 3.

3. Get or borrow a copy of this book, look up the passage in question, and try to learn exactly *why* this religion considers people like you to be evil. Criticism is *always* valuable. When someone criticizes you (like by saying you are a bad person), examine that criticism seriously, give them the benefit of the doubt and ask yourself "Is it true what they say about me?". If you decide the criticism is true, then you will know what to change about yourself, but if you decide that it is false *then you will know *why* it is false*, and you will be able to argue your case to others. This is a philosophy that I try to apply to every part of my life; Criticism points out potential problems in me, and then I can examine the potential problem, and decide whether it is really a problem or not. If it is, then I can change it. If not, then I can educate the criticizer about why it was not.
¶So anyway, find out exactly what you are being accused of, and make your decision. Do you believe that you are evil? Does this book offer any convincing arguments that you are evil? Maybe the book is right, in which case try to reform [I personally do not believe this to be the case]. Maybe the book was misinterpreted, in which case, you will have to explain to your friend where the misunderstanding was. Maybe the book is just plain *wrong*, in which case you will have to convince your friend that the book is wrong.
In any case, consolidate your arguments. Determine exactly what your convictions are on the matter. If you believe you are wrong, then apologize, if you believe you are right, then proceed to the next step.

A personal note: I believe that regardless of what this book says, the question of whether you or anyone else is good or evil boils down to this: "Is what I do harming others, contributing to the harm of others, or acquiescing to the harm of others? If the answer is no, then you are doing nothing wrong.

4. Try to have an honest and reasonable discussion with your friend. Allow that you can understand why she is upset, and that it is a difficult issue for both of you, but also gently explain *why* you believe that the book is *wrong* about you being evil (Try to focus on the book being incorrect rather than her, people tend to get defensive when accused directly, so instead focus on the fact that she made a wrong decision because she was given wrong information). I don't know you well enough to know what your specific arguments might be, but you should know *yourself* well enough to be able to argue the point. It is possible that you will arrive at a compromise that is compatible with both of your beliefs. On the other hand, it might come down to your friend making a decision: Is the book right or wrong about you being evil?

It is going to be an incredibly difficult task, and I for one do not envy you it. Even if you succeed in regaining her friendship, depending on how you answered step 1, it might never be as strong or as trusting a friendship as it was before. In all likelihood, you might never be able to regain the same level of bond you once shared. In that case, all I can offer you is the bittersweet comfort that it is better to get this kind of thing over with sooner rather than later, and not let a friendship continue to exist under misunderstood or dishonest terms.


Good luck. Stay strong, and know that regardless of the outcome of this trial, you *can* survive it, and you *can* be a stronger and better person for having survived it.

Answer 3

I hope this doesn't sound too bad but she wasn't a great friend if she could throw your friendship away so easily.

I think it's wonderful that you can see auras. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Just know that people are afraid of what they don't know.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that you've had such a painful experience. People have a hard time accepting things that they cannot understand. Do not lament the loss of someone who would toss you aside so easily. You cannot help what you saw, and there's nothing evil about it.

Answer 5

small minded people annoy me. god gave man a wonderous mind, capable of many things. when one opens the minds eye, it isn't Satan that is helping, as long as you are not worshiping Satan. be true to yourself and your faith, and try to maintain your friendship if you can. if your friend, who knows you better than someone you never met, refuses to maintain that friendship, then they were not really a friend to begin with. the Jehovah's Witnesses have a very narrow view regarding religion and faith and dealing with people. in fact they are rather like fundamentalist Muslims in that if you are not a JW, then you are not Christian enough, and they shun you.

Answer 6

neither try and get her to see reason, no one is evil though words, i think that the only evil is the underhand tactics employed by this partuclular JW and i think that you should not have to do something that you arn't comfortable with, become a JW to get back someone who is your friend just because of what one person says

Answer 7

If this person would drop you over something as silly as that she was never your friend to begin with. You should be thankful that you no longer have an obligation to associate with her

Answer 8

JW is one of Christianities most vile denominations.

It is the nature of religion. It is divisive, intolerant, and hateful.

Nothing good can ever come out of religion.

Answer 9

many christians believe that any beliefs that don't fit into their narrow interpretation are evil.
You are not evil and you don't need people like that in your life. tell your friend you're sorry she feels that way, then go your own way.
bright blessings!

Answer 10

Anybody who would tell you that is a waste of skin. Find a real human to be friends with.