I would love to try to have a threesome with my wife and another lady. I have mentioned it during hot sex and it seems okay, but in everyday conversation I am told no. Yes I love her, but why can't she let me experience it with her?
2007-07-02 08:56:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Darling, because she values your marriage.
She is afraid that by bringing in another woman, she may not be able to compete.
That you will find the other woman more compelling than her and you will not want her anymore.
It is a threat to her happiness, she only want YOU!
Nothing more and nothing less.
Why can't you be happy?
You are squashing her hopes and dreams, killing her slowly with this desire for a threesome.
Are you being selfish? Maybe.
But don't you think that her happiness is important too?
Let her alone and enjoy what you have...before you push her away...you are walking on thin ice darling.
GOOD LUCK N BLESSINGS
2007-07-02 09:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should've thought about this before you got married. By you suggesting the threesome idea, you may be making her feel like she is not enough to satisfy you. I've heard about threesomes ruining relationships and you should think about whether or not it's worth losing your wife over.
If you just want to spice up your sex life, there are other things you can try. Try different positions, places (maybe go on a romantic vacation), role play, toys, etc.
2007-07-02 16:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by NYCLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she doesnt want to have a relationship like that right now, and even if she was really willing to change her decision, I dont think that a threesome with another lady is a good way to show how much you love her. To her, mentioning this might make it seem as if you dont love her enough to be happy with how you are now.
2007-07-02 16:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Christina SMILE :) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because maybe to her, sex is an intimate form of love. I know I would be offended if my boyfriend asked me for a threesome. Sex is something I'd only share with someone I truly love. It's not just a pleasure tool to everyone.
I'm sorry, but you shouldn't force your wife into doing anything. Would you want to have a threesome with another man for her? I think not...
Good luck...
2007-07-02 16:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about if she comes up with her own sexual fantasy and she would also like to try out with you and another man, would you be ok with that? Is not that simple, if she is like me, I will never allow that, sex between a husband and wife is private, and no one else should be allowed to participate in it, not another woman not another man. I mean, why do you need more than one woman in bed, I wonder if you would be able to satisfy them both at the same time? Good Luck with your fantasy!
2007-07-02 16:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Frog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she thinks that if you do have a threesome then you wont love her as much or even at all! talk to her about it and if she wont just accept the fact that that she has a compsonit love for you and doesnt want to get hurt! im sure she loves you ver very much and shes not trying to halod you back shess trying to keep you form things just showing her way of love for you.
2007-07-02 16:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Morgan Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want to experience a three some with her and another man? Sounds like you have done this with someone else before. I say she is a very committed person to you and wants only you. If you love her as you say, you wouldn't want anyone else. Or maybe you don't know what love stands for.
2007-07-02 16:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your wife and her decision not to want a threesome. You should be happy with what you have!! If you want to do some freaky stuff then find out what your wife would be comfortable with - don't try and force her in to something she doesn't want to do.
2007-07-02 16:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every couple I know that has crossed that line has eventually broken up. Yes it is fun but it is not worth doing with someone you love. That is something you should've experimented with before marriage. Now drop the idea if you want to keep your wife.
2007-07-02 16:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by hockeygirl4462 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... if i were ur wife and a little older that would certianly be amazing.... i think she's not up for it because maybe she doesn't feel confortable with another woman in bed with u 2.... alittle weird4 her...
2007-07-02 16:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by britt* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋