I've been dating my boyfriend for quite a while and all this time i've been best freinds with his best friend. My boyfriend never has done anything wrong and he is always so sweet. I've been recently doing stuff with his/my bestfriend and i really like him too. i have so much fun with him no matter what. my current boyfriend have been dating for like 2 years but i have found that his family is crazy and always causes problems and he always tries to be cheap about everything. on the other hand my/his best friend has a great family and is never cheap. i dont want to lose my boyfreind because what if hes the one but what if my/his freind is the one? i get along with both so well. what if i make the wrong decision. please help and give my your best answers
2007-07-02 07:24:45 · 15 answers · asked by wakeboard girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
right now my freind does no matter what im always happy me and my boyfreind seem to be just comfortable together its like being married or something lately i have more fun with my friend other people around me even tell me that we should date but i still do love my boyfriend it just seems so dull and just habitual between us. and i know its superficial about the family but i was just looking at the pros and cons of both i'm just lost
2007-07-02 07:51:09 · update #1
should i talk about this with either one of them?
2007-07-02 08:13:41 · update #2
You don't, you choose both. Go get 'em playa!
2007-07-10 06:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by I'm a driver, I'm a winn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go after your bf's best friend, not only do you not know if he even wants to go with you, but you will destroy all 3 friendships in one swift blow. If he is the best friend of your bf, why would he betray him for you? If he doesnt want you, you have just effectively alienaded yourself and will have no best friends / bf. Even if he was a backstabbing friend, could you love someone like that JUST because he is never cheap and has a great family? Are these 2 reasons worth breaking up with someone for? No one is perfect; im sure there are things about you that bother your bf too, but dont get caught up like how many other girls do about 'the grass is greener on the other side.' Be thankful for what you have, or you might never be content.
2007-07-02 07:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by y0ungdan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this seems pretty easy. As it stands, it doesn't seem like you have an actual PROBLEM with your current boyfriend. He doesn't make you feel awful and apparently, you two get along really well. The concerns that you posted seem pretty supeficial. Almost everyone's family gets on their nerves. And quite possibly, the only reason why you think your friend has a great family, is because you're just the friend. Not the GIRLfriend.
What I wanna say, is stick with what you got, Babe. The grass isn't ALWAYS greener... especially when it's your best friend's yard.
2007-07-02 07:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Birdie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wowie. That's a tough one. You definatly shouldn't rush this decision. I wouldn't say break up with your bf until your totally sure that you like your friend better. I mean, your friend could not like you like that or maybe he's just better as a friend. I have been in this situation and I found out that dating my friend didn't work out because he didn't like me as much as I liked him and it started drama with my other friends. It could make your bf upset, and then if it doesn't work out with your friend you have no one. Think of who's more boyfriendy to you. Does your friend hold your hand at the movies? Does your friend comfort you when upset? Who's there doing the boyfriend stuff? I'm pretty sure that's how you'll find your answer. That's how I found mine.
2007-07-10 05:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by rainbow Brite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your bf about the situation.. dont tell him that the guy is his best friend cuz that make a conflict btw them instead tell him that that u love him (if you mean it) but that ur really confuesed about if everything. Tell him the things that the other guy is givin u that ur bf is not. If he really loves you and wants to stay wit you he'll make the little change but dont make the mistake of leavin you bf for this other guy. You and ur bf have 2 yrs together that i dont believe is worth throwing away... Good Luck
2007-07-10 06:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Confused Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay look - the grass always look greener on the outside. Maybe your bf and you just need to take a break or create more excitement in the relationship like what first attracted you to him. It won't workout with his best friend because of the simple fact it's his best friend - it will live on your conscious, his best friend will never trust you and your boy friend will hate you. It's your choice.
2007-07-10 05:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mya'sMommy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With any luck, the best friend is bi and the three of you will live happily ever after.
If you leave the boy friend for the best friend, would he pick you? He would always figure you would end up leaving him for some one else, so would never take you seriously.
If you have a "good" thing, stick with it. You might want to spend more time with "just" your boy friend and avoid the temptation.
2007-07-02 07:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by Randy C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long term friendship. Friendship is all approximately believe and it takes an excellent sort of time to construct that. & additionally coz of the recommendations & emotional attachment with ol' pals. So i does not enable pass of my ol' pal specially if s/he been a large help to me. at times new pals do create undesirable vibes between 2 ol' pals. Its greater suitable to not enable them to come back in ur way. in no way enable pass of ol' pals. long term friendship is often a actual stable bond. Why break such suitable friendship coz of a few new toddler on the block? undesirable thought!
2016-09-28 22:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant compair ur boyfriend with his family thats a big no no. u need to go with ur gut. but think about it, do u really think that ur mans bestfriend is going to start ******* u once u break up with his bestfriend. he's known him longer. u dont want to be the sluty girl that goes from friend to friend. if u break up with him, then just stay friends with his bestfriend. thats it though.
2007-07-10 00:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by ..::..Lovin him..::.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to talk to your Bf about the problem. Trust me its a bad desicon to break-up with ur BF To go with your other friend.
2007-07-02 07:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Princess Jr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first say to your bf"s/your best friend i like u and if he says i don't like u stay with your bf so don't dump your bf b4 you know if your bestfriend likes you back
2007-07-10 05:00:57 · answer #11 · answered by cristal b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋