how to approach the boss about a catty coworker, that may cause problems, that is definately trying to?

Question

shine, by putting others down, the boss already recognizes it....however, there is more then he knows and it is getting on my nerves

Answer 1

be careful!!! there's a difference between Catty & Snich, & the boss recognizes them both too!! both disfunctional partners have low self esteem issues & willl be found out, talk to a therapist, who's not in the office pool

Answer 2

People like this tend to create a world of trouble for themselves through their own actions, and if your boss already knows what a little backstabber she can be, it's only a matter of time before she digs her own grave.

If you really can't endure it for now, you should set up a private meeting with her first, before approaching the boss. This is due process, and even though it is very uncomfortable, most HR people won't even listen unless you can say you've already tried speaking with her yourself about an issue. Very calmly and cordially, talk with her about several incidents that made you feel as though she had intentionally put you down to score points with the boss. Don't do it in an accusatory manner- use "I statements," such as "When you did _____, I felt _______." If you don't get anywhere with her, or if she starts making things even worse for you, go to the boss and discuss the matter. It would also help if you jot down specific instances in which these behaviors occurred so you can bring them up in a sit-down with the boss and not forget anything. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

It definitely depends on the office dynamics.

If it is a big office with plenty of co workers and a water cooler and all that. Make your opinions about this person known to everyone in the office and DO NOT be shy to that persons face. Also, belittle them for belittling others, bosses love the protector of the innocent, if they do it to you they do it to others. Put post it notes on the water cooler like updates and little interoffice news bulletins about what rude comment that person made today. Warn others boisterously about that person. Throw a BBQ and, on the flyer, write everyone is invited except for -------, and post it in the lunch room, and when they ask why, say, "It's too bad you don't know". Walk above their BS, perceive them as more of a rash than a cut.

If you work in a smaller office, like a doctor's office or a property management office, you have to bring to the boss' attention certain employment and managerial practices, federal laws about workplace violence, and demand action and be ready to look for a new job if the boss shows favoritism to the bully.

Answer 4

First of all, keep a journal at work and document every issue when it arises, and sign and date it. Do it for every separate day. If you have an evaluation coming up, I would mention it casually as an issue in the office, and feel out the conversation. Make sure you have others to back you up.

Answer 5

TALK TO YOUR BOSS PRIVATELY! Let him know how much you love working there and that you value your job but....your upset about this persons behavior. how they are constantly putting other people down to make themselves look better. that it lowers the moral of your work enviornment and the negative energy is def having an affect on you. if they could possibly talk to this person and put them in their place so tensions are not so high. good luck, im sure things will get resolved buyt you def need to speak up!

Answer 6

i think of maximum people who do that are jealous of healthy romantic relationships because of the fact (for regardless of reason) they have not been able to finding one for themselves. i think of that their purpose is to make a probably happy couple argue or get offended at one yet another, in an attempt to make the instigator sense that their dysfunctional relationships are familiar. additionally, some everybody is in basic terms a**holes that want to work out everybody else depressing.

Answer 7

when you talk to your boss, tell him or her that you're coming to them because you don't want to get caught on the other end of that person's trouble making. explain that you don't want to make too big a deal about it, but you want to make sure he's aware of it and aware that you play no part in it. you might even want to ask his or her advice on how to handle the situation should you become the troublemaker's target.