i love him how do i help him get over his ex? he recently visit some old friends in NY and of course she lives there now. i was very aware of him going and he did tell me he was going to have dinner with her. she is getting married and moved on with her life. she got over him , he still stuck on her and cant get over her ... what should i do? i care about him and love him. i told him am here to stay she will not get rid of me or try to break us up. mentally i am a strong women, but iam hurting now and i dont want to lose him.. help me give me advice jessica 38yrs. los angeles , ca
2007-07-02 06:13:11 · 4 answers · asked by jessicarabt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no time line on when a person can get over another person...She very well could have been his first true love and he didn't/doesn't know how to handle the separation.
Apparently, at some point he was able to get over her to get involved with you. Give your guy some time to heal...Don't pressure him into getting over his feeling for another person, cause you very well can cause him to break-up with you. So be patient
2007-07-02 06:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the saying "one great love can overcome an old great love?" It takes time for someone to heal over a broken heart (she must have dumped him) and maybe him finding out she is planning on getting married is little more to help him heal and let go. Sometimes we need that "closer" to come to terms with what has ended. For you, try to be a friend to him (not just a girlfriend). As for him having dinner with him, I really think that wasnt appropriate 1. She is getting married, 2. I am sure she knows he still has feeling for her (leading him on?) . 3. If he was truly trying to get over her and have a relationship with you, he should have not gone, why does he add salt to the wound? . All that aside (my opinion only). At our age, there are so many game players out there. Do you know for sure she is getting married or did he tell you that to make you feel better about them having dinner togethor? He cant move on until he lets go. If he for sure has, maybe he is worth holding on to. If he hasnt.. how long do you want to put your life on hold waiting on something that may or may not ever be? I wish you luck in what ever you do. Go with your gut instinct.
Sweetpea
2007-07-02 06:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i understand your situation completely i dated this guy that i loved dearly for several years and went through the same thing, i just hope that you are stronger than i was. when we started dating he would tell me a little about her and i was ok with that but then he would talk on the phone with her and he seemed to be the one that would always call (she had moved on and he hadn't). One day he had mentioned going skiing for a week said he was going with his family but i found the 2 airline tickets by checking his email i confronted him about it and he denied it that's when it all went wrong.yes i was wrong for snooping but i went with my gut feeling, we did stay together for several months later but it wasn't the same. i hope that you stay strong and stick with you gut feeling. maybe ask to go with him to the wedding. good luck
2007-07-02 06:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by smoothsweetnchilled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love him then there is nothing you can do..he has to be the one willing to grow and move on..he may from that have committment issues..an dmay not be able to be your fully..all i can say is hang in there if you truly love him..but it will be a difficult road
2007-07-02 06:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋