I was dating a guy for about a yr. and 3 or 4 months and we decided to be apart like u know take a break or what not and during that time I had sex wit someone else. My ex is constantly making me out to be a whore and calling me a cheater when im trying to stress to him that we were not together.
2007-07-02 05:47:44 · 16 answers · asked by princess_jen_06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he agreed to separate, then it isnt cheating.
Question is, did HE date anyone? I would never say such a thing to someone--question is why did you separate? Was is with his consent? (Just a factoid).
2007-07-02 05:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by gaia_fanatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is cheating. But how about if he had sex during the break or time out? is he "cheating." It's obvious this is bothering him. Now it's time to have a talk with him on what are your goals for each other: Long term, for fun, convenience. If you guys don't have a common goal for each other, break it off right now. Besides, do you really take a break or quit on someone you love? For example, I love my family very much, and there are times that they can act in a way I don't want, but I'll always love them and I'll never quit or take a break from them.
2007-07-02 12:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by kwest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been a fan of "taking breaks" for this very reason. To me, if you're taking a break, you're not comfortable with him, and you're wanting somebody else but you want to have him as a back up plan when things don't work out. This is the case here. If you really are serious about the guy you were "taking a break" from, then yes, this is considered cheating.
2007-07-02 12:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by nutz2203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what happened in your break up. If you two said we should go our own way for a while and see what happens but your boyfriend was just seeing if you really loved him then yes it was cheating in his eyes. But in reality no hunny you didn't cheat on him at all. You both decided to be apart as a brake up, you moved on and it isn't your fault that you are not a mind reader. I know it sounds mean but you moved on thinking it was over so again no you did not cheat on him. Did he try to holla at someone else? Maybe he tried and it didn't work the way he wanted and now he is mad because you got his and he didn't get his.
2007-07-02 12:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Black N Proud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to want to hear this but I see his point. Being broke up or not isn't the point.It's that if u love someone and just need a break from this person u really don't want to have sex with someone esle. He probably never thought about having sex with anyone and thats why it probably hurts him so much. You should stop argueing over if u were together or not.It's going to end up breaking u two up.It's over so both of u should move on.Good luck hon
2007-07-02 12:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not cheating if yall were not really together. He needs to grow up and get over it. Tell him how you feel. If that does not work than let it go. You know that you did not cheat and you can't make him believe anything. The people that really know you will know that you are none of what he is calling you. What I would do is just tell him that you DID NOT cheat that you can't cheat on somebody that you are not with at the moment and that he needs to let it go and get over it. You told him once and if he does not believe you than that is his problem not yours. Good luck..
2007-07-02 13:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married - dating is dating - and if you take a break, obviously it's because your relationship is not secure enough NOT to take that break, therefore, the Cheating word is not acceptable in this situation, and if the Names are flowing your way, that should wake you up even more
2007-07-03 08:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both had the idea that you were not together then it was not cheating. He is probably just hurt because you slept with someone else but that is his problem. He needs to get over it. Just tell him to leave you alone and ignore him until be grows up.
2007-07-02 12:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by blue_girl_05us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only cheating if you fell guilty about it....if you think that what yo did was okay then it was.....besides you guys were on a break therefor he has no right to tell you that even though you aren't together anymore you still can't be with any one else.
2007-07-02 12:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by *in*love* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were on a break NO it's not considered cheating... Who is the one who asked for the break??? What did he think you were going to wait around for him??? I would say no if you two weren't together then it wasn't cheating if you two were together then yes it is cheating...
2007-07-02 12:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Who knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like Ross and Rachel.
She thought it was cheating, He said it wasn't.
Depends on how you look at it.
But if you don't think it wasn't, then it wasn't. But why do you still want to be with him if he thinks and calls you a whore?
2007-07-02 12:52:47 · answer #11 · answered by J j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋