There are so many of these but I need some specific answers about my long distance relationship?

Question

I see my boyfriend twice a month usually, from Friday to Sunday. We have been together for like 15 months and we are both 20. I love him with all my heart and vice versa. Things are absolutely amazing. I just have one problem. I want to spend so much time with him. I will go out and do something with friends but he is constantly on my mind. It's becoming quite irritating. I just miss him so much that my heart aches. I know one day we will really be together and I will wait until that day but I just miss him so much. Also, he is in the air force and hasnt been deployed yet (I'm in college). When he does go, i will probably feel worse. I just need some advice about how I can get my mind off him and stop missing him so much. First hand experience would probably be best?! Please dont tell me to break up with him its not like that. I dont wanna change the relationship I want to change myself. Thanks!

Answer 1

I understand how you are feeling. Keep busy. Go out with your friends, hang out with family. I know you say that when you go out with your friends that all you think about is him. That is normal. Just try and get into a conversation that is outside of him. Think of it this way too. When the day comes that yall can be together for good then you will cherish that even more. You have waited so long for that. Take this time to do something for you. When he does get deployed it is going to be harder. Just be strong and patient, Like I said try to stay busy and do things that are fun for you. Good luck and if you need a friend you can e-mail me.

Answer 2

It's hard... I KNOW. My fiance and I have been together almost 3 years. The first 14 months we saw eachother all the time because we lived in the same city. The past 16 months we have been separated by quite a distance 1200 miles then just recently I had him near again until he moved 2500 miles away. Its the hardest thing for me and i'm still trying to deal with it. It has gotten easier with time but I know exactly what you mean. The best thing you can do is live your own life apart and its ok to do that and still know and feel you still love him. We have been engaged for almost a 1 year its the hardest thing for me but i know that when we do get to see eachother (which we try to a few times a year) that the time we spend together is even better then the last. Go out have fun and eventually you'll feel better about the distance with time. Good luck!

Answer 3

Lillybear, I like yourself was in a LDR for over 3 years. Also like yourself my lady was on my mind constantly and it almost appeared as though I was even incapable of doing my job at times. We would speak each and every night on the phone or over the internet. And we would also travel to see each other each and every weekend (2.5 hours traveling distance). We married on May 20/07 and continued to live apart until such a time as we can live together, as we both have pretty good jobs and responsibilities in our hometowns. I continue to miss my lady, but find it much easier as we both trust one and other 100% and also realize that our time together is limited and as such make the most of seeing each other. If and when your man gets deployed you most certainly will probably be worried and thinking of him constantly. However, there is not anything wrong with these emotions. If you know in your heart that this is the man for you then be proud of the fact that you are lucky enough to be able to share your life with another and the fact that he wants to share his with you. Here's hoping that you two will be united soon (when the time is right), but until then there is nothing wrong in missing the person you love. Best of luck to you both.

Answer 4

Well I Had A Similar Thing Happen To Me And The Way I Delt With It Was That I Would Say To Myself That I Was Going To She Him On The Weekends And I Will Look Forward To It All Week...And Well When He Goes Away I Don 't Know That's Never Happened To Me... Good Luck...

Answer 5

I think that best way is to support him and be there for him when he needs you the most. if you do that, missing him won't be a big issue anymore because you know that he truly needs you in his life. I know you will feel lonely and you just want him to be there with you as much as you guys can. but unfortunately life doesn't work that way. you will feel lonely, happy, sad, and in love all at once when he's deployed. cheer up and send more time with him when he's here. tell him how you truly feel and good luck with everything.

Answer 6

The way you feel about somebody is hard to just get rid of especially if you love them. You have to just try and do things that are fun and will get him off of your mind atleast most of the time. Also make sure you call him as much as possible, it helps. Trust me i've been in a similar situation with my bf.