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I do so much for my boyfriend like....wash his clothes, cook him dinner, clean his house. go grocery shopping for him. I like doing these things for him but sometimes I feel like it is me who does everything for him and he doesn't do anything for me. What do I do?! Do I tell him how I feel?! What if he comes back with the reply that he does stuff for me and gets mad that bring this up. Any suggestions anyone?!

2007-07-02 05:43:25 · 8 answers · asked by Louisa 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I also do a bunch of stuff for my boyfriend. Sometimes I feel that I do much more for him than he does me. I wouldn't ever bring it up to him because then he would probably come back and say well don't do that stuff for me anymore. Well if I don't do this stuff for him then it doesn't get done. If I were you I would let it go. Hopefully some day he would start doing stuff for you in return. Hope this helps.

2007-07-02 05:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 7 0

Don't tell him like that. Let your car get dirty and ask him if he would take it and wash it for you. If he says ah yah I'm too busy then stop doing what you do for him. When he asks say no. Now you have an example to point out. Do not be gamey or passive aggressive. Confront it directly. Otherwise you'll just make him mad. Say do you remember when I asked you to wash my car? I feel it's unfair for you to expect me to do things for you when you won't do anything for me. it makes me feel like I'm the one doing the work part of the relationship. Then listen to his response. Pay attention to whether he just makes excuses or if he says, well yah you're kinda right. This is a good opportunity to see if your guy is all about himself or the relationship.

2007-07-02 12:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by timssterling 4 · 2 0

Bring it up and see what happens. Just make sure it doesn't seem like you're attacking him. If he brings up stuff he does for you, then maybe he is doing things that you're not noticing them. I've gone through this before and it's better to just get it off your chest because if you don't say anything, you'll start to resent him and then you might as well just break up. Maybe he doesn't even realize that you've been doing so much. Good luck.

2007-07-02 12:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 2 0

You sound more like his mother than his girlfriend. Stop taking care of him as if he is a child. If he doesn't keep his place the way you would, that's his choice. What he does for you will never seem to be enough if you keep score. Only give what you are willing to give freely and appreciate everything he does do for you.

2007-07-02 12:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lee819 1 · 1 1

That is exactly what he will say. You have to decide if you want to continue doing things. I would back off on the "doing things" and just be more "with him". You may be subconsciously trying to "buy" his affection and that works in reverse, i.e. it won't work.

2007-07-02 12:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 3 0

Stop doing things for him if you expect anything in return. I know that you probably enjoy helping him, but if it is going to lead to bitterness, just don't do it.

2007-07-02 12:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey 2 · 1 1

in nay successful relationship - you have to be honest and tell him how you feel - if he gets mad then he's probably not the right guy for you

2007-07-02 12:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by lancej0hns0n 4 · 2 0

tell him /how you feel / you/ are his gf/not his maid

2007-07-02 12:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by hotdogsarefree 5 · 1 0

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