alot of the same feelings, we have confessed that we love one another and we agreed that we dont want the other to see anyone else..I then said how could we continue to say were just "very good friends" if we feel this way. His response is that he is just so afraid of being hurt because of his last relationship, and i said ok so if we stop talking tomorrow would u be hurt and he said yes i said ok then what is the difference??? And of course he swears that he doenst see anyone else which i believe because hes with me everynite and when he isnt hes contacting me from where he is at!! What do u think please i am so confused, not to mention i have children he has none and also told me he wants me to stop taking birth control to have his child...WHOA!!! PLEASE HELP!
2007-07-02 05:25:49 · 4 answers · asked by 1 !N A MILLION 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW! it sounds like he wants the commitment without actually saying he's committed, he's afraid that once you've admitted that you're committed that you'll want to end it. tell him strait up. tell him that you've only got eyes for him and that you need him to want to be with you and to admit it by agreeing to be in an actual relationship, no very good friends about it. tell him you want him to be your man and that you want to be his girl. mention to him that you're not into even talking about having his child if he can't even agree to those terms. Tell him you love him and that you'll do your best not to hurt him, but he has to trust you enough to give it a real chance. There's not much you can really do except be real.
2007-07-02 05:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, "friends" is only a semantic difference if you're doing everything that suggests you're an exclusive couple. He just has some commitment issues right now, and that's okay too. BUT, do not stop taking birth control ( at least not for that reason) because there's no security in this arrangement yet (it may develop or it may not) but adding another child into the equation will usually not make a commitment-phobic person more reliable.
2007-07-02 12:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get clear on what the relationship means. if he is afraid of being hurt, now is not the time to be thinking of being parents together. if he gets hurt and runs out of fear, you wont have a father for your baby. both of you need to be secure in the relationship and know what you are to each other before going any further.
talk it out. let him know how you really feel and it might calm his fears of being hurt.
take things slow and they always work out for the best.
good luck!
2007-07-02 12:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by maggiemae821 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find that a little creepy, sorry, i mean if you guys are remaining "very good friends" i find it odd that you promise that you to promise to not see anyone else.
2007-07-02 12:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by scaaarlet :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋