What if a guy never falls in love with me? Will be doomed to be single forever?

Question

sometimes i feel like an ugly duckling

Answer 1

You need to worry about establishing yourself and doing things that make you happy and proud of yourself! Once you have gained your own love and respect you will be shocked by how many guys you will be turning down. Choose the one that puts your needs ahead of his own and makes you feel special because you are!

Answer 2

Even the most beautiful girls feel like ugly ducklings sometimes. And while it is possible that you will be 'single forever,' it is HIGHLY UNLIKELY that you will. I once met a man who was 39 and had never had a 'real girlfriend' ... he'd had sex only twice in his life, and had never taken a girl home to meet his mom. We were best friends, and 'pretended' to be going together to keep people away from us, then ... OOPS. We've now been married for 10+ years, and are extremely happy and are together 'forever and beyond.' Be open, be honest, be sincere ... and you'll probably have many men who will fall in love with you, and you'll probably meet the 'one man' who can make your heart sing forever in harmony with his ... but give yourself some time, and don't 'jump' when the first one comes along, because you never know what is right around the next corner ...
You are probably very young now, and it seems 'impossible' to 'get a boyfriend' ... and that is OKAY ... because I'm betting that you have lots of friends, and that some of them are boys (or you will have boys who are friends soon enough) ... so just RELAX and don't worry about it, and you'll be 'paired up' soon enough.

Answer 3

Youre 16, which is awful young to be worrying about forever. But because I have some memories of what that was like and I, too, felt like an ugly duckling, I will impart the wisdom of an old lady and tell you that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You need to nuture your talents, your skills, your intelligence and your self-worth because they will carry you through, not your looks or lack of them. I have been married three times. I thought at 16 and 40 and 48, no one would ever love me, no one would find me, I'd be alone forever-- I was wrong. So are you. It will happen. Just be paitent.
Hope this helps.

Answer 4

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What if a guy never falls in love with me? Will be doomed to be single forever?
sometimes i feel like an ugly duckling

Answer 5

Sweetie you are not an ugly duckling. You should appreciate yourself. I've been there and I know exactly how it feels especially in a society like ours. Be happy with who you are. Get out there and have fun. Do things that you enjoy and have the time of your life. Be open to possibilities. Love will come.

Answer 6

1. Love is not always conditional, maybe begining more as that on a superficial level but as it progresses it can become unconditional, ingrained in the soul 2. sure age is important for compatibility, and basic human instinct is involved here. The want to produce children is something the primal body desires like most mamals do 3. We cannnot exactly read animals minds, only make guesses upon what is observed so perhaps it does exist beyond the realm of mankind 4. I dont believe in predestination, "one" kind of love either. Love is over used merely due top ignorance and ideas projected by a corrupt media 5. Love is based on personality, how could you love something that you couldnt stand? Id say compatability is factored in here. Aesthetics influence many decisions but itt also changes for each person. Its all in the eye of the beholder. Love is stronger than the bounds of beauty though because as humans age they tend to lose their looks, there are many oldies still together, its a sweet love they tend to have, cured by time :) 6. Love is blind. When getting close to someone you dont spend time with for looks or worldly things like money, love can just happen. To anyone given a chance. Insides always out weigh ousides 7. This is just another part of the primal human side that wants to procreate and carry on the species 8. Everything about humans is a chemical reaction. Fertilization, the multplying of cells to create what is need for a human to come into existance, every thought, feeling. Does that make your thoughts invalid? 9. What isnt used to make money? Violence, comedy, food, clothing is used to make money. Do they not exist.Its a feel good thing, as humans we crave the good feeling. The positive, the hope, good memories, ect 10. You said yourself love is misused, misunderstood. It makes sense that dovorce is so high, they marry for the wrong reasons, it wasnt really love, etc 11. Love is found when much is learned about another person, being around someone much. Love is likely to be found within the close friends because it comes from knowing a person and such. Many people settle too, unfortunately 12. Lust, a basic element of the natural man that can be overcome. Again I think the misunderstanding of love can be used to explain this phenomenom. The weak in the mind or doubtful or undedicated can be easliy swayed by the flashyness of lust, tis true 13. Eh, love can last longer. Why waste time on someone that will not love you back when the efforts can be put into something constructive that will gove back"True love doesn't have a happy ending, because true love never ends" Looking for love puts a lot of pressure on yourself, just let go, be free It'll come to you. If not in this life, then the next. Its out there. Remember to be the person you would want to be with though, because wont your partner expect the same of you? Love is caring for someone more than your own self. Thinking about them unyeildingly. Putting their happiness first. Love is is forgiving, seeing past errors. Love doesnt expect anything in return. Love is seeing them and having butterflies no matter how many times youve seen them before. Love is enjoying just time with that person wether it be filled with silence, laughter, talking, cuddling or being iint the same room. Love is hard to put a thumb on. Its like trying to describe the taste of bubblegum to someone who has never tasted it. To sum it up, It is a distinct feeling. You will know it when you get it and if you lose it, an unmistakeable ache will be present if it was ever sincere. Best of Luck

Answer 7

Just remember what a beautiful swan the ugly duckling grew into!!

Being single isn't so bad either!!! I'm 39 and single. There are MUCH worse things than being single!!!

HOWEVER, I sincerely doubt that you'll be single. You just have to be patient and wait for the right guy to come along and realize what a wonderful person you are and the BOOM there it is!!!

Good luck:)

Answer 8

Don't ever feel like that.You project what u feel about yourself.So always feel good about yourself. There is someone out there for u.You just have to go out and be seen. I see girls with guys that I think are ugly and they are in love with this guy.So looks are only part of falling in love.You can be good looking and your personality sucks. This can make u ugly to people.Looks are really only skin deep. So get out there girl.Get noticed and every morning look in that mirror and tell yourself how beautiful u are and someone someday is going to be really lucky to get u.Good luck

Answer 9

You should be so lucky.

I doubt very seriously you are ugly. Most girls are a very poor judge of appearance, especially their own. I rather think that its a case of you believing cultural myths about soulmates and a lid for every pot. There are no guarantees in the chaotic marketplace of mating partners, and you could be nothing more than a victim of wrong place, wrong time so far.
That in no way implies that fortune won't turn for the better in the future.

Answer 10

Actually, the odds are in your favor! Roughly 95% of the people in the US end up marrying at least once in their lifetime. There is someone for everyone out there.... you will find someone who thinks you're beautiful, but it's important to think of yourself that way too.

Don't get caught in a trap of negative thinking. Whenever you start to think you're ugly, replace that thought with one positive thing about yourself, like, "I like my outfit today," or "My hair looks good," or "My eyes are pretty." Focus on the positives instead of the negatives.