What should I do ?

Question

Hi

I been with this girl for 2 years now and she starting to do my head in , ordering me about trying to control who I m friends with .

I want to leave her. But she say I cant because we have been going out for so long, I m 27 and I think in my head that i won’t
get another women should I stay with her.

what should I do?

Answer 1

Leave her......You're only 27.....there's alot out women out there...

Answer 2

Look man you need to do what is right for you. You are still young and have many years ahead of you and if you play it right plenty of women in your future. The last thing you want to do is end up in a relationship you hate, think of it this way 5 years from now you two might have kids and still hate each other and then splitting up is even more complicated with child custody and alimony and child support depending on who ends up with the kids, not to mention the emotional strain that you kids would go through. It is better to nip it in the bud right now and move on.
Besides do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who belittles you and makes you feel like you are worthless. Cause from what you said about your girl that is exactly what I think you are going to have in your relationship. Run while you can!

Answer 3

OMG!!! I can't believe i just found this post!! Listen bro, this is the SAME EXACT situation I was in back in March. I was with the girl for TWO YEARS and she wwas starting to do my head in, ordering me about and trying to control who I am friends with. EXACTLY. This is like freaky weird. I broke it off with her back then but I knew deep down that she was the only girl I really ever wanted to be with, but she was getting ridiculously jealous thinking I wanted to get with every girl I saw, so i had to break it off. I knew for the proceeding months that I only wanted to be with her, but I needed the space. Bro, she found someone else. She's with a new guy right now, who's 26 which KILLS me cuz I feel i lost her forever (i'm 22, shes 21). If the girl gives you the world, like she did for me, don't leave her. ESPECIALLY if you're 27. There are girls you meet in life that are so rare. Don't do what I did. WORK things out, my friend. All part of a relationship is working things out. I feel like this is so weird cuz I wish you could be me back in March and I'm telling myself from the future what to do. Don't leave her, PLEASE! She's only getting like that because she cares about you so much and she doesn't want to lose you. Don't let her go. Don't do what I did. Don't lose her!!!

Update: Sorry, I thats just how i feel. Everyone else says to move on. But I'm torn to pieces about my love I lost. Do what you want, though. It's up to you.

Update #2: Wow, I'm the only one that thinks you should still be with her. Just look at it this way, if you break up with her, you might not ever have her back again, not matter what you think. If you don't care about losing her forever, then yeah, break up.

Answer 4

This is deja' vu all over again for me! I was in the same position less than a year ago! I'd been with her for close to 2 years. In her head we were supposed to be getting married sometime in the coming year. She caused me to lose touch with a lot of my friends because I had to spend so much time with her. "Fortunately" for me she cheated on me and told me about it, which opened the door for me to get out.

She's got you wrapped around your finger. There's nothing legal or otherwise she can do to keep you from leaving. If you leave her, and you put yourself out there, you'll find another woman.

What you do is up to you, but if you're not happy with her then I'd leave her before she tries to take it to the next level! Good Luck!

Answer 5

If you don't want to be with her then leave her! Be a man and step up, who cares what she thinks anyway?

And you're only 27, not 50! There are so many women who are much better than her out there. You just have to get out a little more and meet them.

Answer 6

Oh hell no!! If your not happy time just makes it worse. Please don't hold onto her because you are vested. This is coming from a girl, there are a lot of gals out there. Never settle, but don't be too picky nobodys perfect including you (not to be taken presonally)!

Serious though, if you're not happy why wait to talk yourself into staying. Believe me the hardest part is the actual decision to do so, after that it's cake and you wonder why didn't I do this sooner

Answer 7

Never settle in life...especially when it comes to the person you're going to spend forever with. Don't ever think you'll never get another woman...that's no reason to stay with someone anyway. It's called the "better than nothing" syndrome. Don't stay with someone that doesn't treat you like gold cause it's better than being alone. Don't take any of her nonsense. If she doesn't like your friends...that's too bad for her. Two years is nothing compared to a lifetime of misery. I'd dump her.

Answer 8

Its not worth it if she thinks she can boss you around!

PS: If you think in your head you wont get another woman guess what?

Im 37 now, the cute phase stops when your about 35. You've got about eight years before age is a factor. Ask yourself "What so I want? Someone who can accept me, or someone who doesnt care what I think?"

Strike while the iron is hot!
Jump off the mule an find another philly!

Answer 9

HEAR ME OUT:
L-E-A-V-E her.
YOU are the one controlling what you do.
And where the f*ck did you get the idea that if you're 27 you will not be able to get another one?
Phah! I know single men of 40 who DO get women so my guess is that after dumping her you won't be lonely at all.
Just go out and you'll definitely meet another.
A conTROLLing woman is always BAD.

Answer 10

IF you really want to leave her do it!! if she doesnt make you happy in every aspect of the word then she's not worth it!! just because your 27 doesn't mean anything you could be 33 and it still wouldn't matter as long as your happy and if she does't make you happy then leave!

Answer 11

You should never commit if you have even a single doubt. Just settling for someone just because you think you can't find someone else is so not right! Will you happy in future if you settle for her? Are you happy now? Remember, nothing shatters dreams like a compromise.