my boyfriend cheated on me a while back in september when we first started dating. am i wrong for giving him another chance? he said he was sorry and that he'd never do it again and he was crying when he told me what he want he did.
2007-07-02 05:02:59 · 20 answers · asked by soccerstarsara33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he'll do it again, I always do, my gf forgives and back I got to get some strange
2007-07-02 05:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by FAT PIG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation, if you have been apart since u found out then why go back for more? If u are over him you really dont want to fall for him then find u cant trust him. BUT if you have been together all this time ask yourself, do u trust him? Do u completely believe he will never do it again? Only you know how far this can go, but from personal experience a man will always choose to 'cry and lie' than feel rejected. My ex-partner spent 2 years promising me the world, sun, moon,stars, and then ended everything just 2 days after making an offer on a house, what for? some slapper he met 2 days before! Just be careful, it hurts when u choose to ignore the signs. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. x
2007-07-02 05:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell really. do you think he's trustworthy? do you think you can ever look at him the same way again? do you think you could handle it if he slipt up again? It's all a matter of how you feel whether or not you believe in your heart whether or not he deeserves another chance. some guys do deserve another chance depending on their primary motive that caused them to cheat, other guys don't deserve a second chance if the cryed and weeped in front of the whole world while claiming to be sorry.
that's just the way it is i'm afraid.
i wish you the best of luck and i hope that he has truly learned his lesson. Everyone deserves a second chance once in a blue moon, i hope that this time he won't blow it. But if he cheats twice, it's not meant to be, let him go and move on.
2007-07-02 05:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to give him a 2nd chance. I did with my boyfriend (Of one year.)...My boyfriend went out drinking with the boys one night after he got off work. The bars close at 2:00. I work in the mornings so I guess he thought that he should just not call me, I don't know. He drove to the closest house that he new of...HIS X-WIFE. His x-wife is married again, she and her husband had been fighting so he was out of the house. It was just the 2 of them and their son that is 7 years old. I went looking for him the next morning before I went to work, and I went past her house, and found his car there. I beat on the door and windows and no one came to the door. I was a mess. I called into work and told them that I had somethings that I had to deal with. I MOVED all my stuff out of our appartment. I had called his cell phone many times that day. Finally he came home and told me that he was sorry, and that nothing had happend...that he wasn't thinking right when he went over there. I moved back in. I love him with everything I have! But...I will always have that in the back of my mind, What happend that night he stayed with his x-wife? Did they do anything? Was he liying to me?
I hope that if you do give him a 2nd chance that he will do everything in his power to make it right! Good Luck!
2007-07-02 05:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Don't be taken for granted! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to give second chances if you can deal with the fact that he cheated and forgive him I did it it it is going well so far but if he do it again leave him because he is only playing with your heart and you can find better
2007-07-02 05:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves a second chance, but make sure he knows that he cannot have you if that behavior continues.
sometimes girls let guys push them around because they are in love, and the guy knows that...and will do whatever he wants because he knows she'll stay no matter how far he pushes her. Dont be one of those.
Forgive him, and really forgive him. Don't bring it up anymore, don't be insecure about it....you're the one who gave him that chance...make sure it's a full chance he won't feel trapped in. No one likes their mistakes held over their head. Just completely drop it, but remind him that he does have to earn your trust back. If he really wants to be with you, he will do just that.
Let him treat you like a princess. you deserve it girl.
love, Cinderella
2007-07-02 05:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta 50/50 chance. Cheating is always a hard call. But we all deserve second chances.
What I would do is give him that chance. Let him know that the trust is minimial and that he has to prove he wants to be with you and only You!
Actions speak louder than words!
Good luck babe
2007-07-02 05:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by stayc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Factors in his favor: He told you about it, you didn't have to learn this in some painful accidental revelation, and you were newly a couple. And he did seem genuinely contrite about it, so giving him another chance makes some sense if he's otherwise what you want. Still, keep your eyes open at all times.
2007-07-02 05:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is rough. It's a hard call. But I would say you could try with him again. I believe in second chances.
2007-07-02 05:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be such good actors sometimes. But sure, you can date him again but get to know him really well first before you give in. You don't want to be hurt twice by the same guy.
2007-07-02 05:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by checkmate1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you were wrong. I'm not saying cheaters can't reform, but when you're dating someone, keep in mind that person is on his or her best behavior. Him cheating is an indication of his level of committment to your relationship.
2007-07-02 05:06:14 · answer #11 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋