My friend's soon-to-be Mother in Law plans on wearing a white dress to her wedding. MIL is kind of a loon, and thinks the dress is an off white color, but it is clearly white... What makes it worse is that the Groom's sister was with Mom when she picked the dress out! Is that tabu? Bride does not know what to do here!
2007-07-02 04:56:26 · 30 answers · asked by pinkbabe1322 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
NO! Someone make her take it back!
2007-07-02 08:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My soon-to-be sister-in-law's mother is wearing a long white dress to her wedding. The bride is pretty clueless and careless about ettiquette but her mother should know better... Her mother had the gall to say "it's not the same color as the wedding dress os it's fine." because the bride's dress is off-white.
The bride could give her MiL an ettiquette lesson or someone else could. In fact, someone close to her, like the groom, should say, "Mom you can't wear white, you're not getting married!" and then offer to take her out to find a new dress. Keep it light but serious. The onyl one wearing white should be the bride.
2007-07-02 05:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kristy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went to a wedding where the MOG wore white. I was thinking who let her do that? Apparently she bought a green dress with her daughters and at the last minute changed it without anyone knowing. It was too late to get something else so she wore it. I know the woman is a bit of a loon too, and likes to try and steal attention but this was just too much. The bride was very good about it, knowing she was marrying into a crazy family. But it honestly just reflected poorly on the MOG for having bad judgement.
The bride has to get her fiance involved in talking to the mom and sister. Tell them, white, ivory, beige and champagne are not acceptable colors. If she wants something light go with a pastel color. Our moms went dark with plum and navy.
2007-07-02 08:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over the age of six and not the bride, then you shouldn't wear white or off-white to a wedding without a specific request from the bride.
It's simply not done.
On the other hand, this woman is going to be her mother-in-law and is apparently known for being...slightly unconventional is the politest way I can think of putting this based on your description.
If nobody can convince the mother of the groom - and GENTLY convince her without a scene - that the dress would be inappropriate even if it was off-white, then there is nothing your friend can do without making her look bad. The best she can do is try to rise above this petty annoyance.
If anyone brings it up to the bride either at the wedding or later, I'd advise shaking her head with an expression of indulgent sorrow and changing the subject quickly.
If it helps, my brother's mother-in-law not only wore a white lacy gown to her own daughter's wedding, she deliberately frowned and glared in every single photo! Anyone who sees the pictures takes one look and talks about how rude that was. In the longrun, mother-in-law is the one who will look bad...as long as the bride reacts with any shred of dignity.
2007-07-02 05:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should wear white but the bride. White is meant for the bride. The MIL should not wear white. There are many other color choices out there. The bride should have a talk with her MIL and let her know about how she feels about her wearing white. If the MIL wears white it will be like she is competing with the bride and trying to outdo the bride.
2007-07-02 17:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by boonslilsis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mothers need to get a grip. They should never wear white (or anyone else in the family) so the bride will stand out on "her" day.
The bride needs to try and color coordinate the mothers and ask them to please wear certain colors that will blend in with the bridesmaids dresses or the flowers. How sad that she even has to deal with this at all.
I've never heard of mothers trying to do something like this. Everyone I've known has always asked the bride what color would be best to go with the color scheme.
2007-07-02 05:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i heart how people think off white is still okay to wear to a wedding. if the word WHITE is in it, do not wear it. there are many other colors out there, go find them.
clearly your in-laws need some lessons on what not to wear. this is a big no no and she very well may be a loon. now i do not suggest YOU talk to her, send in your groom. he has known a whole lot longer than you and may know how to word it better than you saying "OMG DO NOT WEAR WHITE".
typically i have found mothers wear dresses that compliment the colors in the wedding/bridesmaids dresses. i am sorry this bride(or you) has to deal with such rudeness.
2007-07-02 06:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a future bride myself (august of this year) and i would say that it would appear kinda tacky and wrong to do that. I think that maybe the groom should talk to her and explain that "this is her (the brides day) and that she should be the only one wearing white as it will distinguish her". The mother got to wear white on her day, fair for the bride in this case to wear white or ivory and be the only one doing so. Personally, i would be disappointed if someone did that at my wedding. Maybe another idea would be to show her posts on this question (*there was osmeone else asking the same think so maybe use theirs)
2007-07-02 05:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Candie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is rude on the MILs part, but in the end, it's just a dress, and the bride shouldn't waste a second of time or an ounce of energy worrying about what color other people are wearing.
2007-07-02 05:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! They should know better!
Unfortunately, she is going to have to say something if it's bothering her. If she doesn't it's going to be the talk of the wedding. Imagine the pictures the bride in white next to the MIL in white, it just doesn't work.
Tell your friend she has to tell her MIL that she would like her to not wear white. It would be odd that this woman doesn't know the rules, it makes me think she is doing out of spite or something and in that case your friend has a long hall ahead. This may be first in-law battle, and sounds like she is going to have to take a stand!
Good Luck!
2007-07-02 05:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to go about this is to let the groom talk to his mother. "Wow mom! That's a pretty dress but that looks like white to me. Did it come in any other colors?" She might take the news a little easier from her own son than her daughter-in-law to be.
Another option is to have the brides mother call the grooms mother and discuss their outfits. I know sometimes the mothers coordinate their outfits. They could go out together to find another option. "I was wondering if you'd like to go out to lunch and then go shopping for our dresses. I was thinking we could wear shades of gold."
Good luck and best wishes to the bride!
2007-07-02 05:10:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋