Feel depressed but why?

Question

New man, new house, new job but guess what still depressed!. Have money in the bank but still depressed!. have tried fish oil, st johns wort, prozac, 5HTP, Vit B6 but nothing lifts it.

i am tired being me i dont want to be me! i try to hide it and everyone thinks i am the life and soul always joking and singing!
i feel i have to see to so many others needs - husband, children, dogs , uni stuff, agh i cant cope!.
Why cant they get a grip, get a job and act like adults - i am ranting about my children now. Why cant my husband use a washing machine and run his life like an adult?

i am tired and dont know where to start with my uni work have 13k essay to write and just cant get started! So many other things to do dog to vet, son to job centre, pick up other son who has no money but wont get a job, clean house, make tea, phone bank about overdraft.

Does anyone know of any other product/ self help take that would help with depression. Sorry to rant and bore you to tears!

Answer 1

Hi

I'm with you on this one. No matter what good comes along you feel low - depression is a chemical unbalance and is not helped by people saying "cheer up" or "just snap put of it", if only it was so easy.

I find talking helps. I'm stubborn to the hilt and it took me a long time to admit maybe speaking to some stranger would help. My partner is wonderful but I worry what he'll think of some of the things that randomly come into my head. You need someone, a professional who you an "unload" on without guilt or reprecussions.

You have one more than me tho - children. Lovely tho they are it could be a long time hidden post natal based depression. It's nothing to feel guilty about.

Your local GP should be able to talk to you about either hooking up with a counsellor, maybe looking into CBT (cognative Behaviour Therapy - There's a good book for dummies on this!) or websites you can talk to like minded people and seelk advice.

I hope things improve mon cher - best of luck

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear about your depression. Although you may have a good life with a family, money, a new house, etc, you could still have a chemical imbalance that causes depression. I would try a new medicine besides Prozac because that medicine doesn't work on everyone the same way. If antidepressants aren't helping maybe something happened in your life that you thought you got over but haven't. See a counselor on a regular basis until you start getting better, no one should have to live life unhappy.

Answer 3

You're not boring anyone to tears! Yes, you sound depressed....but how long have you felt this way? It seems like you've felt depressed (possibly not enjoyed things you once took pleasure in, had little energy, and just generally felt sad...) for so long that you probably have a major depressive disorder, or possibly even dysthmia, which can last years and lead one to feel like they take pleasure in nothing. In any case, depression is a serious psychological problem that can lift by itself within 6-9 months or take years to diminish naturally. However, psychologists and psychiatrists CAN help, and in many cases are the only thing that can help. You say you've taken prozac, but there are many other drugs on the market that doctors can presrcibe for those that prozac doesn't help. Yet, you're plea for "products" disturbs me slightly - many times, drugs only get their maximum (or any!) effect with the addition of therapy or CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy.) So don't lose hope, but don't hope for a cure-all drug or remedy - remember that solving something as awful and complex as depression can take more than a pill.

Answer 4

Sounds like you need to vent. There are many things out there that you can use to supposidly boost your mood. I dont know any of them that work though.

Maybe your essay should be about alll the shite in your life....maybe a drive around an area of your town that has people that have different problems. Maybe you should donate some money to someone who doesnt have your money in the bank problem (I can send you my address if you want, lol)

Look, we are a society and world or worriers. People may look at your problems and think you have nothing to be depressed about, but thats not true.

Alot of people who have "everything" still cant be happy because they feel that maybe they dont deserve it all. The more you have the more you spend and then you start to worry that you have too much or the working to make enough to have all that starts wearing on you.

Everyone has problems. The key is finding a good balance and you seem to be a bit off balance. know what helps me occasionally? Praying. Not praying like in church or a formal prayer, but talking to God like he's a mate. Look, I aint religeous by any means and if I were to walk into church I'd worry about lightening, but the thought of someone out there listening to me is comforting sometimes.

Anyway, didnt mean for this to turn into a rant, but just know that you are not alone. Talk to someone, email someone, write about it, talk about it, get it off your chest.


Good luck. Remember, someone loves you.

Answer 5

you have listed all your problems and basically i think you are bored and fed up with being taken for granted by your family.
My suggestion...take yourself away for a week and get your essay done. Find time for yourself. let your family look after themselves for a week! Your husband should and will learn to use the washing machine, your son can get himself to the job centre...he's got legs, let your other idle son get himself a job...tell him he has to do so and pay his way!

Make everyone aware that they all have to change and pull their weight and that you are not a door mat. then seek some counselling and maybe some assertiveness classes.


You need some time for yourself to think and clear your head. let your family know you love them but you are taking a week off.
Also medication is not always the answer..as in your case. Your depression has not lifted because you still have the burden of all your family problems on your head.

Do it

Answer 6

you have overwhelmed yourself!!! You have gone thru some major life changes, it is no wonder to me that you feel as you do. I am also not surprised that the Prozac didn't work, antidepressants aren't "fix all happy pills", you need to also see a therapist to find the root of the issues that depress you, all the meds do is help you think clearly enough and feel less overwhelmed so you can work with a therapist to iron out your issues. If you truly want to feel better this is your path... see a psychiatrist, get the right medication for you, and see a therapist. Cut back on meeting the needs of others so much, you husband fed himself before he met you, let him do it himself on occasion now. I don't know how old your kids are, but they are his too, you can teach those old enough to heat something in the microwave, and you can also teach them all to do their own laundry, it isn't rocket science. It is a family, and you are NOT their personal slave. Stand up for yourself, do it with love, but do it.

Answer 7

Go to your doc hon. Your suffering with depression and sound like you could do with a pick me up. Maybe some anti depressants just until you get back on your feet. I take them, have done for years (different reasons) but they really do help. No harm in getting some help, we all need a boost some times. You are always helping others and need some you time. Take some time out for your self. You should also tell hubby how you feel and let him know how he can help you. Your children sound like they are old enough to give you support too. Talk to them, they love you they'll help you. All the best. xx
PS - Dale Peters your horrible. Dig yourself a hole and stay in it.

Answer 8

so sorry u are feeling like this - I have been there!
u seem snowed under with demands on your time - this makes u tired and susceptible to depression.
sorry I don't have any miracle cure for you but do go and see your doctor again.
all I can say is it won't last forever - try and be glad for the good things in your life and take time out for yourself sometimes - I hope the sunshine comes back into your life real soon!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

you need a holiday and your sons need to respect you and give you a break!! and as for husband he needs to sort the sons out himself, go awya for a week on your own they'll soon know how much you do do for them and also a lesson in do 'it your bloody self!!!' your not a robot!!