Being mistaken for a "lady of the evening"...?

Question

OK, so I'm waiting outside this motel to get a room, and it's a cheap motel, and I'm wearing a dress so I'm not really upset about being mistaken for a prostitute. What I'm upset about is that I go back to my boyfriend, tell him what happened, and say "Do I look like a whore?" I don't think I do, obviously - but is it so wrong to expect him to just say "No"? Did he have to consider it and then point out various things that might have led to the assumption? Do I have a right to be upset with him?

Answer 1

No..He is telling you the truth. Would you have liked yet another person to point it out to you, rather then right when you are asking someone you know?

You have the right to be upset. There is no law against it. But you need to realize the truth is inevitable and also necessary. If you want him to start lying for your benifit, I wish you good luck with that. Otherwise, be grateful he was being truthful. Don't ask, if you aren't prepared for the worse.


Also, don't be upset. Hookers dress in a wide array of outfits from jeans, to bikinis, to dresses and so on. SO technically it is not really hard to look like a hooker as they wear many different things.

I don't think it was the outfit. It think it was mostly that you are standing outside the motel. The dress may have reassured the notion that you might have been one, but it was mostly just standing outside the motel.

Answer 2

Never ask a question like that if you are unwilling to accept an honest answer. This is a loaded question. If he answers yes, you will be mad at him for being honest. If he answers no after what you just explained to him, you will be mad at him for not agreeing with your assessment of why it all happened.

Clearly YOU thought you looked like a hooker, otherwise you would not have asked the question.

Next time someone propositions you and offers money, say, "Congratulations. You just solicited sex and that is a crime. Get out of your car and put your hands on the roof. You are under arrest. You have the right to remain silent. You have the right to have an attorney present........" You get the idea. Scare the crap out of the guy.

Answer 3

No, you have no right to be angry unless he purposely tried to be mean and upset you. If you ask a question, you should expect an honest answer and not take offence even if the answer isn't what you wanted to hear.

In this case, maybe he thinks you could dress with a little more class but never said anything for fear of upsetting you. You asked, so now's his chance to be honest. Learn from it and let it go.

Answer 4

You have just defined the classic dilemma, from a man's perspective, in the male / female relationship.....she asks a question and the guy immediately has to start thinking....."Does she want me to answer honestly, or does she want to hear what she wants to hear?" I understand your point, but please consider how confusing these types of questions are to us guys who are "wired differently."

I have been married for over twenty years and still sometimes "guess wrong" when my wife asks me a question like this. So give your guy a break, sweetheart. He's no "dumber" than any other guy.

Whether you have a "right" to be upset or not, you obviously are, so discuss it with him and come to some mutual agreement on where to leave it. Feelings are not about right and wrong.

Answer 5

While feelings can get hurt because females tend to be very self-concious, wouldn't you be happy at the fact that he was honestly answering you? It sounds like you just didn't like the answer to your question. Sounds like a moment right out of a tv show. Female asks male - does my butt look big in this? Males says well, no, not really, but it's a little tight - Female tells male he's in deep trouble now. Male doesn't realize if he answered honestly how he's in trouble.

Answer 6

Yes, I think you have a right to be upset with him.

Your life partner (even if you don't know for how long) is supposed to be a supporter for all accasions.

He should be understanding, and non-judgmental.

And even when he can't agree with you, he should know how to express his thoughts. (Unless it is really his intention to walk out).

After all, you don't need someone to make you feel bad. He should make your life better (and the same applies to you you towards him).

If this doesn't happen most of the time, then you are probably better off alone.

Answer 7

At least one other person thought you did look like a whore....if your boyfriend found reasons why, then I think you need to be mad at yourself, not anyone else. Your choice of clothing, while you may like it, is what gave the impression. If you don't want to hear truthful answers to questions, don't ask them. And if you get truthful answers, be grateful that he trusted you enough to give you one. Shame on you for being angered by the truth.

Answer 8

If you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question.

I understand being ruffled by the news that you might look a little too ho, but be grateful that you have the facts so you can make the proper adjustments to your wardrobe.

Answer 9

Sorry, but your Prince charming likes a woman dressed up in the image of a whore, and he probably liked it when you looked like one that night. That's why he could point out all those points without ever crossing his mind, that for you, it was actually *bad*.

Answer 10

There are exceptionally beautiful and stylish women who are "ladies of the evening", not the street corner type of looks. So, maybe your BF thinks you are really beautiful and sexy and was not surprised that another man would pay for your company.
Men's brains sometimes work differently in these areas.