Sometimes i think he is married, He does not want a Girlfriend. We had been dating for 4 months maybe. All I want is a boyfriend, It makes me feel meaningless. I have talked about it several times with him and he says your over reacting were just friends, or im thinking too hard. What do I do?
2007-07-02 03:16:35 · 24 answers · asked by kristi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should move on....the only one "benefiting" from this is him. Yes he probably is married or has some other commitment hold back. In either case you should find someone who can give you what you want.
2007-07-02 03:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥Carla♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. If he can't commit himself to you and only you then he isn't worth your time. Isn't it obvious what he wants from you?? He doesn't even refer to you as someone he is dating, he says yall are just friends and he means it. He has no intentions of changing that. I have been in your situation before. I was in a two year relationship where the guy would break up with me every few months and want to be "just friends" and I stuck with it for way to long thinking it was going to change. Of course it never did and when I realized this I broke it off. Now I have an amazing boyfriend that treats me better than I could ever imagine. Trust me this guy is bad news. You will find the right guy one day, but till then don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
2007-07-02 10:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley*Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of arrangement hardly ever works out for the best. One or the other always anticipates the relationship will go further, but doesn't normally unless prompted by wanting to end in marriage eventually. The premise is that the two of you are not beholden to each other for anything other than a "comfort level". It normally ends up with one or the other being jealous and keeps a high level of intensity between you.
Find out if he's married. If so, he's keeping you for extra sex only, not caring if you're a friend or not.
2007-07-02 10:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, are you serious when you said that sometimes you "think" he's married? You don't know seriously? You definately need to find out! But more importantly...this is the bad thing about FWB relationships....at some point someone gets too emotionally attached and when the feelings are returned, it's devastating! If you're at a point in your life where you want a boyfriend and someone who will enjoy being committed to you, then you need to pursue that, but with someone who is available! FWB relationships are a physical benefit because you get to avoid getting all the emotion involved and can be with some whom you know well and who is not intimately involved with someone else at the time...but you just get their body....not their heart and soul!
2007-07-02 10:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and this is the problem most people have being friends with benefits. you entered into the relationship like this, so you can not be upset or expect more if he does not want to give it to you. very few of these turn into serious relationships cuz basically - you are already giving yourself away for no commitment in return. I think these relationships are good for people if both enter into them with the same feeling of this will be fun while it lasts, but to go into it expecting a boyfriend is just heartbreak waiting to happen. He as already told you that you are just friends, so if you want a bf - find someone else.
2007-07-02 10:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard. I know you probably don't want to hear it, and I didn't when I was there either, but you need to just accept that things will never be more than what they are now. Don't put yourself out there thinking that you'll take whatever this person wil give you because in the long run it's going to just be harder for you to get over him. I feel for you, and hope that everything works out.
2007-07-02 10:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by shayne w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not thinking to hard because when guys hold back like that we begin to think that their is someone else, he may not want to be in relationship right now....so don't begin to suggest what he is doing unless you have proof but sometimes you can tell that there is someone else and if you have that feeling or deal with the fact that he don't want you as a girl then find someone who you can be with
2007-07-02 10:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the answers to your questions. if he is indeed a friend then that shouldn't be a problem. I mean how do you define a friend? So if you can't get some answers or insight from him to sort this out you need to dump his *** and move on. No one, absolutely no one has the right to make another human feel meaningless. That is abuse.
2007-07-02 10:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by fnsurf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benifits is just friends with benifits, no relationship, no shared love, no nothing, and it will never be more than that, break out of the cycle because you are now attached, and he isint ever going to be im sorry but thats just the way that deal works. its harsh it sucks it will only hurt more if you wait to break it off, get away and get a real boyfriend one who will give his all not just his "junk" to ya
2007-07-02 10:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by helpfull2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits can be a bad situation to be in...Been there done that...and all I can say is tell him how you are feeling and see what he says. The worst he can say is that he wants nothing more than to be your friend. Then you have to figure out if it is worth it to you to stick around and be his play toy! Ask yourself "Am I worth more than this?"
2007-07-02 10:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋