Iwas with my 1st bf for almost a year. I broke up with him a month ago and completely stop talking 2 him 2 weeks ago I sent him a text message, ignored his calls and cut all forms of communication b/w him and me. I broke up with him b/c of several reasons: it was a long distance relationship, he started lying to me and I believe cheating...we even became emotionally distant. I felt like by being friends with him I was putting salt on my wounds b/c he hurt me more than he could ever know. Point is...despite the fact I know it couldn't work friends or relationship I can't get over him even though I know he is over me. I work and go to school and am extremely busy but my time is spent thinking about him because I still love him. I even tired to talk 2 other guys, but no one compares to him. What should I do??? Forget about him....but how???
2007-07-02 02:10:46 · 13 answers · asked by tha_best 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it time. A year spent with someone isn't easily forgotten. As you get older they will fade.
2007-07-02 02:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by civil_av8r 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time especially if this was your first b/f. Stop comparing other guys to him, although if he was lying and cheating, what kind of guys are you talking to if they don't measure up to the ex. Try getting some closure, maybe writing him a letter telling him why you are so angry with him and why you broke up. You don't need to send it to him, just getting it out and on paper may make you feel better and see the situation for what is was. Good luck
2007-07-02 09:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by cassie12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals all wounds..it hasn't been that long yet. If you really loved/love him it will take longer but you will be okay. A relationship is nothing if you don't have trust. I totally understand what you are going through b/c i just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years three days ago.
2007-07-02 09:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by pancake on my face 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok it is completly normal to still feel this way after only a month and a few weeks.it will take some time to get over him but what you need to focus on is whats best for you.I know it sounds selfish but you need to do what wont hurt you.If going back to him will just end badly for you then don't.You are important to friends and family and yourself..don't let someone hurt you cause you feel like you can't get over them.
2007-07-02 09:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by faithwalker_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question kinda in the same place here. i think you should spend more time in your studys so he want cross your minde. Its hard but you will get threw it. me and my bf broke up yesturday he still stays with me and said that he is singel as of yesturday so im hurting to but i think im going to spend more time working so i can have more then he will ever owne. He dont like to pay bills lol
2007-07-02 09:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by tiana2404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy, talk to other people and just LIVE. Time will pass and you will miss him less and less. You will never forget him as he is now a "chapter" of your life. There will be lots of other chapters. Don't jump right in to another relationship immediately, though.
2007-07-02 09:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Travelers mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean but really best and ONLY WAY is to allow yourself to fall in love AGAIN and stop comparing.I know I did it too but TRY to THINK and accept what kinda guy he really is....a Liar and a Cheat...you dont need him in your life,he will hurt you all over again.YOU can either try to find a LOOK-A-LIKE or I would advise just go for the opposite type and you will be surprised,ok.and hey the older you get,the EASIER.....
2007-07-02 09:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your self time- Time is a good healer- you wont get over it overnight it may take a while- you will never forget him because he was your first, but if he done you wrong then you need to move on.
2007-07-02 09:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try signing up for evening classes, finding a hobby or interest. Spend time with friends. Eventually, you'll probably be glad you broke with him.
2007-07-02 09:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember one thing you're mind controls allot of you're body. I you say you would not get over him, you will not, but if you say you will, well then you will. Just remember once a cheater always a cheater. A leopard never changes its spots!!!
2007-07-02 09:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋