We never met each other. Just saw pics and used to talk over phone. He doesn't know when will he be able to come to my country becoz of his job . I visited many times to U.S.A but now I don't have resources to go there .Maybe in future I will be able .Now he is trying to be away and wants me that I marry someone else because I am getting over age. What I feel that he really loves me alot but just becoz of me he is doing all this.He doesn't make me wait? I told him that I can't do this. How is it possible to marry another person if u love someone. I just want to live with his memories. Now I am losing my life day by day.I can't concentrate on my work. I can't have proper sleep and diet and daily I have severe headache. Often I keep weeping not becoz of this reason that I wanna marry him. If he is happy then I don't want anything in my life. I am just worried becoz of this reason that how do I stop missing him? It's really very painful for me. Want to live normal life.Any suggestion?
2007-07-02 01:03:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have an ex-girlfriend who had this problem. The people answering don't understand that you love this man, and that in your head you two should be married. You live for his happiness and your life has no other focus than the relationship you one day expected to have with him. Now, there is no cure for love but time, and in my personal experience even time does nothing to cure love, it just gives you new things to live for. The advice you are getting from other people is good, look for other things in your closer surroundings to focus on. But this is only if your relationship is over, you need to tell him that it is time to decide if he wants to make the marriage happen, he needs to support your love now or let you go to find what happiness you can in your own world. You need to ask what he wants and how he thinks you can be together, so then you will know if your love is mutual (from both sides equal) or exclusive (only from you). It is clear he has feelings for you, it is not clear how strong they are, are you ready to find out, one way or the other? After that your other question will slowly solve itself. A few sayings from my people: 'There are always more fish in the sea' and 'You are never too old to fall in love again'. Good luck, a love as deep as yours is rare.
2007-07-02 01:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never seen him. He wants you to marry another guy because he feels that you are getting old. And how do this constitute for loving you... I am sorry, but something wrong with this whole picture. It is messed up. He cannot come to your country to see you....What you feel, it is what you personally created in your mind. You do not know anything about his character or his life style or what he wants out of life anyway. It is just a pure romantic, living happily ever after notion. But it is not real. Sorry to be harsh. But this is reality of life. Please find someone who wants to be with you and will not be making conditions. Good Luck. And I have the feeling that maybe this message will go into one ear and comes from another. Then, so be it.
2007-07-05 18:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to go out into the real world and meet someone real. What is the point of devoting so much energy to someone on another continent you never met and are never likely to meet? If it were not for this technology at your fingertips it would never have happened. Come on now, look a bit closer to home.
2007-07-02 01:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by undercover elephant 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth are you torturing yourself like this over a man that you have never even met before?!?
You need to forget about him & move on with your own life.
Easier said than done, I know...
Good luck to you & take care!
2007-07-02 01:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lolita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck, I have sympathy but no really good suggestions.
2007-07-02 01:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋