I am 41 year old male. I have lovely wife and a son. We have lovely family life.
Recently I came in contact (via e-mail) with one of my college day girl friend. I used to love her then. But could not confess. Recently, we came in contact via e-mail. She is married, & having 2 kids. Her husband is outside country for job, since 5 years. They share joint family life only for 2 months in a year.
We both are in India, but in different state.
I have started developing soft corner for her. We are exchanging many SMS & mail. Now we love each other. We shared e-sex life, by exchanging SMS at night.
Whole day, I just think about her. My wife knows her by name, as my old friend. She also speaks to her on phone and share friendship. I plan to take my wife to her home.
I can not leave my wife. We both feel like having sex with each other. I feel guilty doing this. But can not come out of this.
I am totally confused. Please advice & help.
2007-07-01 23:00:36 · 11 answers · asked by K P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG!! your wife has become friends with this woman? You plan on bringing your wife to this woman's home?? You do not need advice!!! You need a divorce.. Your wife trusts you! She loves you! and you are ready and willing to cheat on her with a woman you have practically forced her into being friends with. I am sorry to say but this is not good and i hate men who are cheaters. and I hope you know, this IS cheating! I hope your wife finds out and leaves you. then, when you get with miss home wrecker, i hope when you are all warm and secured in that relationship, she does the same thing to you!
2007-07-01 23:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be confused. You can lose so much and hurt so many with this love from the past. You and this woman reconnected in a way that you both know is wrong. You both fell in love and married other people and have children. Remind yourself of the feelings you felt for your wife when you first met; when you fell in love; all of the wonderful times you spent together. In addition to all the feelings and memories are responsibilities now: a child, a home, extended family, etc... Do you want to throw all of this away for someone that should remain in your past?
2007-07-01 23:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by fleursauvage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell u one thing yes maybe u cant help feeling like this but remember your family at the moment...
I am a teen whos mother was smsing a college and going 2 diner with him etc, it kept me awake at night i started hating my mum and never have got over it.
Is this the relationship u wont with ur son?
My father also really loved my mum it killed him to see his wife loving someone else and not telling him.
Is this how you want your wife to be?
I would recomend getting a divorce first (if u must) and then wait a while till u start having a 'relationship' with this lady.
Also, what kind of lady must she be if a) she goes after a married father and b) wants to sleep with him and c) is cheating on her husband and d) doesnt car for her kids?
well?
2007-07-01 23:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by jenny h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will destroy your lovely life, and hurt your wife and child, you will also destroy this other woman's life as well. Back off, and concentrate on making your marriage work, it sounds like you have everything but are still not satisfied. Cut off contact from this woman, and save your marriage, you can't have everything, you can't have your wife and this woman, why risk losing everything for the sake of an old flame.
2007-07-01 23:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between lust and love. Stay with your wife and son. The grass always looks greener on the other side till you get there. You need to cut ties with that old girl friend, no emails - no contact of any kind. Satan uses sex and lust to destroy people's lives.
2007-07-01 23:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Orion777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP the affair. Don't take your wife to meet this woman. Cut this woman out of your life, even if you say you are in love. You CAN come out of this. Stop acting like a boy and act like a man.
2007-07-01 23:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by 1M9 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a grip. you are playing a game that could destroy to families with children. you are not in love... you are infatuated with the past and something different. you made a committment. this lady is away from her spouse.. so lonliness has set in. also allowing your wife to talk to and visit this woman is the lowest ultimate...slap in the face. where are your morals.? there is no justification in this.
2007-07-01 23:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what else do you still not satisfy with a lovely wife and children, don't be too greedy for what you have now, or you will lost everything.
2007-07-01 23:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by moonrider 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I promise is a promise, and your honor is at stake. Love will come and go, but that promise is supposed to be forever.
2007-07-01 23:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you need help with this, tell your wife evrything, she will help you
2007-07-01 23:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by Fugitive Peices 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋