I'm 19 and I have been working an a large office for the past two years. I was sexually assaulted about 2 montha ago by a colleague who is 42. He has been here for 19 years.
The thing that he did, isn't classed as rape so people are reluctant to take it seriously. I think people also dont think it's a big deal because he is respected and well know and nobody knows me. Nobody think it's like him to do such a thing. I'm worried people think that I'm just a tramp that consented and now regret it so i'm lying.
This isn't what happened at all. He works on a different floor so I never have to see him.
I havent spoken to himin ages but I just feel like I cant move on from it as nothing bad has happened to him since. I feel terrible everyday and he just feels a bit guilty (he blames what he did on alcohol). I just want people to hate him.
How cn I move on? People don't tlk about it but I still feel bad. I cant call the police as I have no proof so please dont suggest that
2007-07-01 21:59:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Plus I don't want to call the police. Everyone at work will just think of me as exaggerating.
2007-07-01 22:00:07 · update #1
I think you need to talk to a professional about this. You don't want to go to the police and you feel powerless about what has happened to you and you are not able to put it behind you. This isn't going to just fix itself.
You know that most rapes and sexual assaults go unreported, precisely because of the kind of feelings you are now experiencing.
You need to work out what you personally need to happen so that you can move forward with your life, and then work to make it so.
It may be that the very best thing is to just get a good reference from your supervisor and find somewhere else to work. Just cut that part away from your life and move on.
Obviously you want to see him punished, to see him suffer just a little bit in the way that you have suffered. For that to happen, you will have to make an official complaint, either to the police or your supervisor or to Personnel or whoever handles such things in your company. You have to know that it will be pretty hard on you, and nothing may come of it. That is a risk you need to understand and be willing to take. Only you can make that decision, but again I recommend that you talk to someone - a professional counselor or somebody at work you can trust, or your family, to help you make the right decision for you.
Good luck.
2007-07-01 22:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape or not, it sounds like a sexual harrassment. You have to sue him or he's gonna get away with it and victimize another. Help yourself. I know you will never have a sound sleep for the rest of your life if you wont do anything about it. Sue the bastard. Even if he wins, he will still be stigmatized.
2007-07-01 22:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by trisha_alexandria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you have to quit gymnastics and ballet? maybe your mom feels like you go through everything and because skating is so expensive, it's not worth it. skating is a very expensive sport, especially compared to what your brother plays. you just have to try and think about it from her side.
2016-05-21 01:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him in the nutz! j/k. I'd leave if it was me. There's always places to get a job at and it seems that you have the experience to still get one just as good.
2007-07-01 22:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by zxdmedgexz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋