You see, I have had a lot of issues in the past, like family problems and friends. I'm still "trying" to recover from it. What should I do so I can stop thinking about these things?
Any advice?
2007-07-01 21:17:57 · 12 answers · asked by ^__^ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am the same - so know what you are going through.
Time will heal though - it just takes time. . . .
Changing lifestyle helps though if you could manage it, such as a new job, move to a new city or even a new country .... broaden your horizons ...
or even take a holiday...
I wish you luck
2007-07-01 21:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by • Koala • uʍop ɹǝpun 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jump into the present with both feet!! and Hit the ground running!! I think you will fine that the more idle time you have on your hands, the more you seem to dwell on the negatives. Stay busy; stay positive and up-beat. Work hard and have things that you enjoy to fill your leisure time. Make plans or set goals for where you want to be in the future and work on achieving those goals. The past is gone--kaput!! You can't change it. Don't let it ruin your present or future. When it pops into your mind, crowd it out----- the power of positive thinking. Pretty soon it will be behind you---where it belongs.
2007-07-02 05:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by DixeVil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to deal with the past is being able to come to terms with it. To look at what has happened openly and honestly and most importantly you must be able to look at it objectively. Like you are a bystander watching a movie.
Allow yourself to see it as it really was. Sometimes we feel guilty when we shouldn't...and on the other hand, sometimes we should.
The only thing we can do about the past is to learn from it, and try not to make the same mistakes.
Try to forgive yourself so you can ask others to forgive you.
The best of luck to you. peace.
2007-07-02 04:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by imgram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things are going to stick with you, and for good reason. These experiences are a great learnig tool. What can you learn from them?
Take what you can from them. Analize them.
Also realize that these experiences are based on individual personalities and behaviors and that these are so abundunt and complex and there are so many different people in this world.
Watch out for the signs that you've see in the behaviors/personalities that were harmful to you... but understand that there is so much more out there and not all people are like that.
Guard yourself to a certain degree, but don't block out potential positive people in your life.
2007-07-02 04:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by tenayaledeux00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thinking process is necessary to healing.Hope for a better future is derived from understanding the problems you are dealing with.Once you understand the cause and effect of what happened you can close the door.The experience of this will help you cope with life .Be positive ,make decisions,choose new ways of achieving your goals.Set a plan of action and make new friends ,share your experience with others .
2007-07-02 04:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you went through but I have had some dramas in my childhood that I took a long time to work through.
The best thing for me was telling someone. I told my husband what had happened. He was great. He was so supportive & came with me to a shrink session. I only went a few times after that but I am so much better now.
If you can talk about it with someone then do it!
2007-07-02 04:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to forget it, the more you do the more you'll think about it, try to live with it and accept the idea, sooner or later it'll just become another fact in your head and it'll go away, it might come back eventually, but it won't be as bad. but if you want a short term fix, try listening to some music, it's good for the soul.
2007-07-02 04:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by aramos911 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, it needs time to heal!
But to accelerate it, I suggest you make yourself busy with unrelated-to-past, interesting, new things and jobs. maybe starting a new career, or studying a new major in the college/university.
You'll definitely recover from it but it will never be %100.
So good luck and get healed soon!
2007-07-02 04:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by njm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off your butt and go make new great memories with new friends who love and care about you. Ive had horrible memories so as soon as i could i met some amazing people who have given me times that i woul cherish forever. but really go have fun :]
2007-07-02 04:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive yourself and focus in your future plans,by forgiving them and yourself and accept the fact that you cannot change the past then you will recover.Dont carry any bad feeling about the past to the present its not healthy,take care of yourself and God Bless you.
2007-07-02 04:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by rubab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋