A friend of mine was married today and for all accounts(kids, legal, and drug issues in the last 10 months), it didn't seem like a good match, but today seeing them, they looked so happy. My friend was so sure. I thought I was sure once and had my heart stomped on. There have been a couple of others than seemed interested in going down that path with me too. So my question is, how do you really know when its the right person. Do people have that magic this is the one, i just know it moment or is it more about making a personal commitment to yourself that you will standby your commitment to your partner? Whatcha all think these days?
2007-07-01 20:21:13 · 7 answers · asked by Jason W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you just know... i know that is a bad explanation, but I've found "the one," and I just knew... when you think about them you just smile and you can't imagine your lives apart... i know this is kinda cliche but it's what i think... but i am a gal, so it may be diff for a guy idk
2007-07-01 20:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is that magic "spark" involved, where you can just feel that this is someone you could spend your life with. But there has to be a degree of practicality. You can't go into a marriage without some planning and some careful consideration. Sometimes people get along wonderfully, but simply can't live with each other. Sometimes people are great when they're around each other, but they can't stand to be around them for more than a few hours at a time. It should feel right but a marriage will probably not work out if you can't get along on a day-to-day basis..
2007-07-01 20:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love that person, and they love you, that is wonderful. The big thing is that you both have to be committed to working hard to make the relationship last. One person can not hold a marriage together. Be patient and wait until you and your partner have learned enough about each other to make that move. Remember those vows. Talk about them, and take them seriously. Forever is a very long time. That is the only way a marriage will last. It is truly hard work, but well worth it!!
2007-07-01 20:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look no matter how much you feel you have met the right person, marriage is a big commitment. There are no guarantees it will be a life long journey together, we can only hope it would be though. If there is any doubt at all, then don't do it.
2007-07-01 21:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean, really its hard to think its truely right, exspecially since theres a HUGE 50% chance of divorcing.
One idea is to move in atleast a year before marriage. this will let you know whats gonna go on at home before you go for the big step. I know lots of people morally disagree with that, but im mean...lets be practical here kids.
Do you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person? Do your plans fit well with eachother? I hope you dont fight toooo much. In your heart do you REALLY REALLY feel its right?
And it's a mix of personal choices and what your feel in your heart...cause sometimes what your heart is telling you, might not be the best situation for you or your other.
2007-07-01 20:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Breana Like Whoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, because you can see your life with them, and can't imagine it without them. You also know without a shadow of doubt that they feel the same. If there is even the slightest bit of doubt, you should hold off, because your not ready.
2007-07-01 20:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i guess if you can picture that person 60 years from now and still wanna make love to her then i guess its right, just kidding. i guess if you feel such a strong connection and love with that person and you only want to be around her and make her happy and she feels the same.
2007-07-01 20:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! nooooooooooooooooo
2007-07-01 20:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by TOUCH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋