dating about 4 months now...things have been ok till now...i was a little insecure at first but then last week my parents found out about me dating him (they disapprove cuz we r from diff cultures. we r both in our mid 20s)...when i told him about my parents he was very concerned...infact he said he he wanted to take my parents out for dinner and talk to them....after that i felt pretty good about us.once i even asked him where this was going cuz im not the type to get into a short term rel...and he got pretty surprised..he kept asking me if he had done something to make me feel that way.anyway things r good when we r together.we get along well.he makes plans for the weekends (we see each other fri,sat and sun)....but the one problem I have is calling.he doesnt call me everyday.most of the time its every other day.i understand that cuz hes working and going to university at the same time.but today was a sunday and he didnt call. am I right here. r there guys out there like this??
2007-07-01 19:48:31 · 14 answers · asked by cassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've only been dating 4 months, this isn't high school....he has a life. He should not be required to call you everyday.
2007-07-01 19:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he wants to be with you isn't that enough? Girls wear a guy down with small things like this. He has to talk to you every day? Why? Maybe he has work to do or wants to spend some time with friends. You have to realise that although a partner is important to a man that the whole world wasn't made to revolve around you. Even if he did phone you everyday I'm sure there would be something else that he was doing wrong. We can never win.
2007-07-01 20:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you become a couple, this doesn't automatically signal the end of both of your lives as individuals. The guy sounds like he has alot on his plate.......try to b more understanding. Don't b sitting around waiting for a phone call in case he might wanna do somet, go out wit ur own friends and catch up! x x
2007-07-01 23:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dolly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see anything wrong with the frequency which he calls you.
You've only been dating 4 months and you see each other regularly and spend weekends together so what is so important about getting a daily phone call from him? As far as I can tell your bloke seems quite a good 'un so consider yourself lucky.
The problem here seems to be your own insecurities. You need to deal with these insecurity issues otherwise it could be detrimental to your relationship.
2007-07-01 22:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in relationships need some space too. Did you required him to call you everyday? I think every other day is good since he's must be really busy with school and the University. I think atleast a nice short phone call will be nice but I personally wouldn't mind. I would prefer a guy who atleast calls me to see how my day was even if it was a short phone call. But its up to you guys and how you want to work out your relationship.
2007-07-01 19:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ebony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really cares for you. He seems quite busy with work and his studies as well.And of course maybe he feels he does'nt want to be too pridictable phoning you all the time. Call him or text and ask him how he is. It could be he's stressed are tired eh? I would'nt worry though. Good luck.x x
2007-07-02 00:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not want a person calling me every single day. Every other day or couple of days is fine. I do think that it is a good idea to sit and discuss things with your family as a couple.
2007-07-01 20:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by bayoubelle24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, calm down! give the guy a break will yeh? One Sunday with no phonecall and your worrying about it? As you said he has a job AND going to university, that's alot to deal with alone without having to worry about whether you trust him.
Take a breather and why not call him?
2007-07-01 19:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally be upset... i would atleast want a phone call or even a text everyday... i mean it doesnt really take that much time you know... guys deal with things differently than gurls and i dont think anyone will ever really understand them...
2007-07-01 19:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by girlylove69 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
on one hand, try to chill out a bit, on the other a text at least just to say hi would be nice
2007-07-01 20:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Little Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋