I have been married for a year to a guy that has never done anything wrong to me. He's generally a nice guy. He'd never lay a hand on me, but thats the problem....he wont lay a hand on me lovingly either. He acts like sex is a chore, and a waste of time. He cant stand to snuggle, kiss, hug, anything. I am an affectionate type of person and it kills me that he is like this. Yes in his defence I did know that he wasnt hugs and kisses all the time, but he used to be a little more affectionate and initiate sex occationally, but now its so different. I feel like the only reason we got married was because I got pregnant. And I love him for giving me my son, but I dont fee like im "in love" with him anymore. I feel like I love him as you would a good friend. I know hes not cheating on me for a fact. So there isnt another woman or anything. I talked about divorce, but he swears that he loves me, but even after bringing it to his attention(numerous times!)he still hasent improved. What do I do?
2007-07-01 19:46:28 · 3 answers · asked by TornIntoPieces 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am all about showing him affection, i try to initiate sex all the time and get shot down. It gets kinda old after a while when you go to hug someone that supposedly loves you and he squirms away like your diseased. And he was ready for a family....hes 31, im 23....the doctor told him he couldnt have kids, our son is a miracle to him.
2007-07-01 20:02:54 · update #1
I think you should maybe go for a trial separation. Don't do anything too final just yet.
I can understand how frustrating it must be when he still doesn't show he's putting in any effort, so maybe you need to go for the separation to give him a harder kick up the a**, and show him you're serious.
If you've only been married for a year, I think it's too soon to do anything as final as divorce, but only you know what will make you happy.
I hope you get this sorted.
2007-07-01 19:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he not shows affection to you then you show affection to him. why do women wait for the affection. some men are like women if you don't feel affection , you will not give afection. give a hug to your husband. I have the same problem but Im single. I need some kind of affection from women to start giving affection, but women never show affection to me.
2007-07-02 02:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by julvert h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels trapped and stressed since you got knocked up before he was ready to have a family. You both need to see a therapist.
2007-07-02 02:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋