My fiance and i have been together for 2 years this July 4th, 2007. we have been engaged since january '07. we are living together and have been for quite a while. I work from home so i am always here but a few weeks ago on june 14th and 15th my mom and brother and sister came up and we went tubing, we were gone about 3 hours. my fiance did not go b/c he works third shift and had to get some sleep. He told me that he didnt get any sleep and just watched tv. he sent me a text message and i called him back and i swear i heard a woman say hello while we were talking, i shrugged it off as the tv or something. we had on our nightstand two condoms still connected together inside a glass cup. i was cleaning in the bedroom a few weeks ago before we went tubing and i KNOW they were there and connected. Then like 2 days ago i reached over to the nightstand and one of the condoms was gone. I asked him where it was and he said he didnt know and he didnt do anything and that i gave him a look like i was accusing him. i still have not "found" the condom and i dont know what the hell happened because we do not use condoms for one and we have not been intimate in weeks, for 2. Any suggestions or advice please would be appreciated. i am freaking out over this and i do not know what to do or think. I asked him if he was cheating and he said no and he never has. any advice would be greatly appreciated, i hate feeling this way. i trusted him up until this point.
2007-07-01 18:26:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also, i know his school schedule and work schedule, he is always on time always comes home when he is supposed to, calls me from work usually every night, so i dont know if this is a one time thing or what...
I am soo sorry this is so long, but also, its not like he isnt getting what he could ever want or need from me, i have a job, i am pretty, i think anyways, he tells me i am beautiful and he says he loves me every day, i am ready and willing to try and do anything in bed, i do things for him and take care of him when he is sick, i am affectionate and not shy about things, i dont know what would make him cheat on me..
2007-07-01 18:27:00 · update #1
First off, calm down. I think you already answered your own question. You said you know his schedule and where he is at all times so I think you would really know if he scewed around on you. I think he didn't and possibly you are wrong about the condoms or right about the condoms and someone else used one, maybe one of you guys friends took it. Another possibility is he used it on himself while you were away and he doesn't want you to know he masterbated. I think you should continue to trust him.
2007-07-01 18:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Shea C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat on you never lol. Lets just say your so called fiance is a big lier. He just don't want to admit what he did. He thinks you might just forget about it and let it slide. We men are stupid we are not perfect from keeping things from anyone. Listen 2 years is nothing what makes you thing 2 years will make you think that you know everything there is about anyman for that matter. We will take any moment in time that we feel that we might have a chance from getting away from cheating or what ever acts we do that we don't want others to know. As in your case you went tubing and he was by himself perfect opertunity for him to cheat on you. The only way to find out if he will actually sit down and tell you the truth. If you get the round around then you know he is lying about something. AND THATS YOUR QUE TO END IT RIGHT THERE AND THEN. Once a cheater always a cheater and a lier.
2007-07-01 18:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you haven't been intimate for weeks. Do you know exactly how many weeks?
You say you knew there were two condoms there weeks ago. Do you know exactly how many weeks ago?
If you have rock-solid answers to those two questions, then you definitely have a case. The voice in the background is also suspicious but I have to give him the benefit of the doubt - it could have been the tv, it could have been coming from an open window. Sounds can be tricky.
Just sit tight and don't act particularly suspicious (it will only spur him on to be doubly secretive). The truth will catch up with him if there is some truth to your suspicions.
2007-07-09 07:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't always need a reason to cheat, it's not about you at all it's about guys being guys. And this may not be happening, but I'd be keeping my eyes wide open if I knew about two condoms and one was missing about the same time you thought you heard this woman.
Be watchful and aware and trust your instincts, but don't destroy the relationship with suspicion.
A man will always say "No" when asked if cheating, regardless fo the truth. Be watchful and keep poking around.
2007-07-01 18:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a hard 1 but not impossible to answer.relationships are a 2 way door. its takes 2 for it to work. go with ur heart. his past history if any should give you a clue. if he says he's true than you kinda have to go with it unless you got proof. but be careful he could reject you for imposing,but if he truely has nothing to hide he'll be straight up with you.but if it does turn out different and we both hope not.. than now you know and make sure he understands exactly what you think of him. and if he has a cell phone depending on the type you can recall phone dial historys being called but use caution, you will be judging at this point. and last point explain why you feel this way, the love the relationship and the comittment you have, if he is straight up with you you'll know it. gl
2007-07-09 18:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by BIG PARTY ANIMAL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a breath, and talk to him. If you haven't had sex in weeks and you usually do the deed more often than that, there probably is something wrong, but it doesn't mean he's cheating on you. It does sound a bit suspisious about the condom, but you never know. I would just talk to him again, good luck with that, hope everything works out!
2007-07-01 18:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell for you this is a sensitive issue so i will try to consider your feelings. did you ask him about what you heard? communication is the key! freaking out stresses you and the relationship out if you asked him and he said no leave it alone you have no real proof. think if he says yes i did it and apologizes are you leaving if not why go through all the extra. if your feeling that you can't trust him now then you need to take a deep breathe and approach all issues with this on your mind. MARRIAGE IS FOR BETTER OR WORSE...TILL DEATH DO US PART. let it out and let it go.
2007-07-01 18:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by in love with life 4sure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't flip out until you have more concrete evidence. Either he IS cheating and is relly good at hiding it OR he's NOT cheating and you are imagining things. Keep on you rtoes but don't obsess about it. And just to be on the safe side, START USING CONDOMS!!!
2007-07-08 07:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by *~PEACHY~* (^_^) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get un-engaged, move out, grow up and when you are ready for marriage and commitment you will find a man you can trust. This would not be the way you would like to live your life is it?
2007-07-09 15:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man with 2 condoms and a sexless relationship. You don't really expect him to waste them do you? That wasn't what he bought them for. BTW why are you 2 getting married?
2007-07-08 06:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋