sex before marriage?

Question

okay this isnt going to be all churchy
but am i the only one on the planet who thinks waiting till marriage for sex is impossible or even stupid?

yeah i worded that wrong
i mean i find it possible, everyone else thinks its impossible and the whole idea is stupid


and flux
what the hell are you talking about

other people think its stupid not me

Answer 1

Wait 'til marriage!!! I hate to think that the s-thing should be done at an early stage or just anytime you feel your urges are on the heat. Its supposed to be shared by two people who love each other. If its otherwise, what difference do we have from dogs and cats, from bunnies and snails, from the birds and the ducks. Get the idea? I may sound so orthodox and very old, I'm an Asian teen and still thinks women must act modestly, not liberated just because its a trend, or everyone else does it, or because its what we see on tv.
No to pre-marr s-thing.

Answer 2

Society is different from jungle because man has evolved a set of rules for common good. There is nothing called absolute independence or freedom. Our actions impinge some way or the other on the lives of others singly or even collectively. So we human beings must behave differently from animals. Sex after marriage is one such principle of responsibility. You perform sex before marriage and if she gets pregnant, you get the little one aborted. How would you like if I killed you. You are going to kill a little one who has just started his journey. If she gives birth, the little fellow would always seek to know his father. May be you may not be interested to marry the girl after some time. You may have lost interest in her or might have found a more attractive girl by that time. If we are to break all social rules then soon someone would justify sex with sisters, mother, aunts, uncles, father and what not. Man has surely lost his senses. Even animals must be having a heary laugh at us. They eat when hungry. We eat even when not hungry. They do not store. We store for even grandchildren. Generally they perform sex when the season comes. But we are always hankering for sex -- day and night, 24 hours , 7days a week, 365 days a year and for all our lives even when our body fails us in old age. Three cheers for Modern Mankind.

Answer 3

No, you're not the only one. Plenty of moderns hold your position. But I think you're wrong about waiting to have sex until marriage being impossible. Many folks that I know have waited and are waiting. And that does not mean that they cheat either. Have you ever heard of this quality called temperance or self-restraint? Whether it is stupid or not, judge for yourself. But any practice that can help me avoid making babies all over the place with different women, keep me from contracting STDs or damaging others emotionally has my vote. In my opinion, it is stupid to spread STDs, act like a hedonist and lack moderation in one's life. Cheers!

Answer 4

It's stupid. Not impossible, if you try really hard!!! Wait, why should you? Well, don't be irresponsible. That's bad. But sex itself is not.
This comes from the (stupid) idea that sex should be a hush-hush subject, and has lead to a generation of people completely ignorant about sex. Yes, there's lots of sexuality on TV. But general lasciviousness isn't teaching anyone anything.
You said not "churchy," but really the whole idea of waiting until marriage is churchy. We're supposed to keep our bodies sacred, "save" ourselves for someone "special," and then have sex only for reproductive purposes.
This leads to ignorance about sex, lots of unhappy couples, more divorces, and the bizarre idea that sex is something to be ashamed of.
Hopefully, our culture will grow out of this.

Answer 5

No, you are not the only person on this planet that has the same beliefs as you do. It's not impossible nor is it stupid. i don't think the question really has to do with being Churchy, it has to do with your values and beliefs. My opion or anyone else's for that matter should not make a difference in what you think is right or wrong.

Answer 6

Sexual incompatibility is seemingly neglegible compared to the other more common reasons cited for divorce such as character differences, financial woes, infidelity etc.

Saving sexual intimacy for marriage is possible. It depends on the individual's will power to fight against a mainstream society that treats sex like a handshake.

Everyone has the right to maintain their own set of values. DO NOT let anyone tell you that you're wrong.

Answer 7

Sorry, stupid is a lesser thing than impossible. Anyway, it is quite possible but it is even more stupid to wait if you actually understood the consequences and want to do it.

Answer 8

It's a matter of choice. A person can choose to have sex before marriage or he/she can choose to wait. Either way is okay as long as the person fully understands the decision he/she is making and is prepared to deal with the consequences of his/her choice.

What's wrong is imposing our own beliefs and values on others.

Answer 9

Plenty of people still view sex before marriage as you do. Many people regret it later on in life because you truly will never forget your first. I do believe a lot of people who say they are waiting only say that because they haven't found anyone who wants to have sex with them or rather they want to but aren't comfortable yet.

Answer 10

Any person has the right to wait to do anything that they want to wait to do, the thing of it is that it is not a childs thing and it is not something that you should pretend to want to do or do unless you really want to do it. You should be responsible for yourself and stay away from it if you don't want to do it. It is entirely different if you are with someone that you want to do it with and you do it as compared to if someone drags you out in the woods and does something to you that you don't want to do let's make a distinction here. No there is nothing wrong with not doing it and there is nothing wrong with doing it if it is appropriate and mutually agreed to either.