My boyfriend wants us to have the same bank account. I said why don't we get our own bank account and have one together. He said I was being selfish. Whats wrong with this?
2007-07-01 17:35:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are allowed to have control over your earnings. You worked hard for it. He is just trying to control you. Do not let him. He is only your boyfriend why would you have a joint account with them. Keep your independence. You have no obligations to him, he is only your boyfriend. And even, if he were your husband he would not have any right to control your money.
2007-07-01 17:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by lovelyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow him to cause you to do something foolish. Do NOT under any circumstances ever open a joint bank account with anyone to whom you are not married. For that matter, even many married couples continue to maintain separate personal bank accounts and then, perhaps, have a joint account for mutual expenses, like housing expenses, food, utilities, etc.
You aren't being selfish. But I suspect he is. And controlling, too. Be warned.
2007-07-02 00:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk it over a bit more, find out his reasons. Personally I think that marriage binds two as one, so a married couple would have an ajoined bank account, since he is your boyfriend, separate is the way to go. Hope this helps. good luck.
2007-07-02 00:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lacy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be CAUTIOUS with this guy. Don't do anything you do not feel ready to do. If the trust level is not to this point, I would wait. I have done things that boyfriends pressured me into and regretted it. My husband was one of those and 26 years later we are just now able to start repairing the damage. If he says you are being selfish, I would guess that he is probably selfish.
2007-07-02 00:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by latemama2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for now i would just keep your own bank account, because he could possibly be taking larger ammounts of money out of your account that you may need in the future. For whatever reason.
2007-07-02 00:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by The Assasin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think anythings wrong with having separate accounts hes just being unreasonable i would tell him hes the 1 whos being selfish not you.
2007-07-02 00:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by jj2424 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a lot of work to have to balance three accounts, but i do think it is a wise idea especially if each has their own income and own bills. but i have known of couples that each had their own accounts and split the bills.
2007-07-02 00:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by overboard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i make my own bank account and keep my own money. cuz if you broke up. you have to change it and stuff
2007-07-02 00:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by sweety84pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing is he's just a boyfreind.after you put your money in account.how long is he gonna be your b f,then where is he gonna spend your money in another state.im a 50 yo male dont trust him
2007-07-02 00:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with it. I would highly recommend it, especially since your not married.
2007-07-02 00:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by gonecrazybacksooninky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋