How do you start talking to people you've ignored because of personal reasons?
I use to talk to a few people but because of personal reasons I've stopped interacting with a lot of people because I was going through a tough time and I was afraid to trust others because I didn't want to get hurt and now i feel bad and guilty because I've pushed them away. I don't know if I should start talking to them again because I don't want to seem superficial because I'm not but at the same time... I don't know I don't really know what I am doing anymore. I realize that I am a failure at life and I dont' really know what I am doing anymore
2007-07-01 16:38:43 · 10 answers · asked by . 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
no one is ever a failure. a person does what they do, what they think best at the moment, and they do it from learned responses, from what other people thought they should, or from what they think they should do, but at least they are their own person and did a reaction at the time which they considered safe. Never second-guess yourself. You're fine.
The question is....do you want to be their friend again, and exactly how much do you want to trust them, or trust yourself in telling them how you feel, or how much will they get into your life or do you want them to meddle in your life. These are all questions you need to consider before going back to them. You can let out as much string as you want. But first decide just how much string you can let out, and how far you can go and feel good about that....because you can't keep letting out the string and pulling it back simultaneously or in a short-term fashion before people will just walk away from you. You need some steady and stable feeling there with your friends.
2007-07-07 11:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didnt push them away but just stopped contacting them, why didnt they contact you if they felt you were worthy of that. What I mean is if they were your true friend they wouldnt have let you just go on without them. They would occassionally be contacting you. If it was something like that unless it was so important to gain contact again just do it, but if it's not important than go on with your life and gain new people that you feel a specialness that you will have their trust. I've been where you are and I have probably 6 close friends that I continue to contact over the past 20 yrs. I trust them and they trust me. There's nothing wrong with what you've done you were only protection yourself.
2007-07-01 17:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by honey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"I realize that I am a failure at life and I dont' really know what I am doing anymore."
IMHO, because I've been there, you need to deal with this issue before mending friendships. Nobody once to hear about your sob story, (except your "couch time" professional) as we all have at least one.
The psychiatrist/psychologist can help put the pieces back together again and get you focused enough to tackle your issues to the point you can resume your socializing.
2007-07-01 16:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Asia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just kinda half smile to them.If they don't get the hint oh well.Or if they start talking to you ok.I didn't talk to alot of people because of the life they led or the difference of moral charactor.I don't regret it.If I run across them I just act like I don't know them.Cause I don't.I was looked down on as a teen cause I was a good natured kid.
If its someone that seems to have 'grown up' and they say hi.Fine.I say hi back.Otherwise I have nothing to say.They will just see me as the outcast again.I have nothing to say to them.
I thought I was a failure too.We're not.Society just likes to make us feel like we were.Your not!I'm not!Pick yourself up and get going!Don't let anybody pull you down!
2007-07-02 07:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by gotabedifferent 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody knows what they're doing in this life; we're all just muddling through. As long as you're living and breathing, you have a chance every day to improve your life.
If you like these people and want them back in your life, start talking to them. Just tell them you were thinking of them, you're sorry you lost touch and you missed them and wonder how they were doing. Ask them what they've been up to and be nice. I bet they'll be glad to hear from you.
2007-07-01 16:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just take the plung and say hi how are u.Or hi ,,,,,,and what ever you usally talk with them about.Most people are usally easy to forgive and for get.Y ou test the waters on how they responde back.IF they appear not happy with you.Just say have a great day.Good luck and go for it
2007-07-01 17:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by dcrc93 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, lets start by talking to a therapist.
no seriously....I'm not being mean or rude.
I feel that a professional would guide you to a happier life and ease you back into a social forum with the correct communication tools.
Best wishes.
2007-07-01 17:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cal them, apologize, explain your circumstances, and invite them out somewhere. If they accept, then great! If not, then too bad for them. Move on.
Good luck!
2007-07-01 16:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i understand where u'r coming from since av been in such situations..my advice is to just start by saying hi...whenever you see them...ask them how their day is,ask abt something they told you they were going through...people like being heard out...try it you won't regret.Let me know if it works...
2007-07-02 01:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by discovery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say hi!!!
2007-07-07 16:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋