What do you do when you feel like there your life has no purpose?

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What do you do when you feel like there your life has no purpose?

I seriously don't know what to do with myself anymore. It gets worst everyday. I'm so tired of my life. I'm tired of crying every night. I've been doing it for too long. I feel like I'm not worth anything at all. I'm not close with my family. they are like strangers to me. I don't feel comfortable getting close with others because I don't trust them. I always feel so alone and I have a hard time interacting with others. I'm not even like a normal quiet person because at least they have personality when they do talk but me on the other hand I'm just plain weird. I don't fit in anymore and for those who seem to like me I cannot understand why. I feel so unworthy in the eyes of others. I've tried counseling and it doesn't work. I've tried talking with others but it just gets worst everyday. Some days I'm able to go through it and other days I just go down the drain. I don't know what's wrong with me. I feel like they only way that the pain would end is if I kill myself.
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and I want to do it so badly. i have a hard time connecting with others and I just feel like an outcast in the world. I'm about to be a junior in college and I just feel so helpless and believe me I am trying everyday. The only reason why I keep writing how I feel online is because it actually helps me to stay alive and to not actually give in in killing myself because I just want to end this pain. I hate myself so bad. I don't know why I am the way I am. I'm so stupid and I have to pretend that everything is ok so I can appear normal. I'm just fed up

Answer 1

Find a purpose. Lots of things need a remedy in this life, and this world. Pick a few.

You can't be stupid if A) you got into college and B) are in your third year, or finishing it.

If your family are strangers to you, and cold, you're not the first. Welcome to my world.

Don't worry about those who reject you. Be quiet with a purpose. Pay more attention to those around you, even if you don't know them. Theer are usually dozens of clubs and sports at colleges. Carefully consider each one. Usually some are service organizations, and they never have enough people, and appreciate every one. Even teams need people to help keep track of statistics. Do a good job. If some folks are unkind, don't keep their stats. Make them find someone else. And do a great job for those you do do it for.

Spend some free time at a public library, and help others learn to read. Become a tutor. There are strangers within 2 miles of wherever you are who will appreciate you if given the chance. You just have not found yourself yet.

Stop focusing on you, now. Where do you want to be in 5 years, and what do you want to be doing ? Get a hobby that requires skill and focus.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

You know what, we all go through ups and downs in life. Sometimes things can suck so badly that it's hard to see anything positive in life. You feel like everything is wrong, so why even continue. But I would like you to think about this for a second. This is the only life you have to make anything happen. All the positives and negatives that will happen will occur during this life time. This is the only chance you get. You do not get to press the reset button and start all over. Do you really want to end things at your lowest point? Is this really what you want your last memories to be? I know things seem horrible now, but give your self a chance. A chance to be happy one day, a chance to get along with your family one day, a chance to realize your dreams. As long as your alive it is not over, you can still can change things for the better. I promise you can get over this hump one day. It may not be tomorrow or next week, but it will happen. And you will look back at this time of your life and will be so happy that you gave yourself a chance to be happy. This is the only life you will be given, if anything is going to change, you have to continue living day by day. So your unhappy today, work on it. It will take time. However if you end things now, you will never have a chance to be happy. So hang in there and realize that life is not always going to be picture perfect. It is not always going to be great. But each day we are given a chance to make it better. Don't you deserve to be happy?

Answer 3

Hi there,
Firstly you are not alone.
Secondly you are worth everything.
Thirdly, to find happiness and change your negative thoughts on both yorself and others, is to find something that you could like doing. It may be a hobby, sport, or just something that makes you feel good.

The one thing you do have to do is start trusting others who get close to you. If they are genuine, then it does not matter if "you" think you are weird. They obviously are ok with you so therefore you should start trusting them or even just get closer to them. Just one good friend is like being a millionaire.
Someone to talk to and enjoy things with.

Don't go down the road of killing yourself. It won't do anything for you. It will just make everyone else misserable and sad.
Is that what you really want to create. I think not. Do the opposite. Make people happy and yourself at the same time.
The world is full of great opportunities, people and fun things in life. It just takes some people longer to find them. So keep looking and don't ever give up. Only losers give up and so far your are showing to not be a loser otherwise you wouldn't be here now..... Keep talking to people. Good luck and be happy.
Hey, i must care otherwise i would not have answered you ok. and i am only one of thousands out there.
Best wishes.

Answer 4

Well you said you can go on by writing on the computer. Start journaling about your life. If you can take 10 minutes each day to focus on changing your self esteme and how you can take control of your life before it takes control of you it will help. Take each day at a time because it won't change over night. Make some small goals for yourself and put them into action, like waking up every morning and say "I am going to change my life and today is going to be a better day." Your right about trusting new friends but it doesn't have to stop you from talking to them. Evidently you used to fit in and depression got the best of you. Fight it, and don't be so sad. Smile at someone new. xcept that someone wants to be your friend. It's better than being alone. That's your problem. Your not letting anyone come into your life. Try to open up and take it slow.

Answer 5

I was like that in my junior high school years. I had no self esteem. Think of yourself. Do something for yourself. Get a new haircut, get a pet. In high school I became friends with the most popular girl at school. That was kind of hard, but it got me through high school. I then went to college. 20 years later I am now teaching in a small school and I have never felt better. I got busy with crafts. I went to craft shows. Find something that you are good at doing and it helps when people say "you did that". It will put a smile on your face.

The best thing I would do is get a pet. It doesn't have to be a dog or a cat. I live in a rent house no dogs allowed. I got a hamster. She will come to me and let me hold her now. It takes a little while for them to get used to you though. She hears my voice. That makes a difference.

Do you have a car? Take a drive. Sometimes that helps.
Just find something that you are good at and talk to God. Ask him to help you. I asked him and the very next day I met my husband and now have another beautiful child. (I am now seperated) but it worked.

I find it hard to trust people too, but others have been hurt, maybe not the same as you, but I was married twice to the same guy and 2 weeks after I married him last August for the second time he put profile on yahoo and about 4 other sites
and then 3 months later almost died and now we are seperated. Life goes on. I keep busy and just pray about it. He will hear you. College is not easy (I have 3 degrees now) and believe me if you are a junior in college, you've accomplished something. Maybe your not happy with the course you are taking. I got an Executive Secretarial degree then later got my BS degree in Respiratory, then took my Parmacy Tech test and then went to an Alternative School for Teaching. I am in my 3rd year now of teaching. I was that way when I was going toward getting my BS in Respiratory. The stress level was hard especially with a 3 yr old at that time with no help. But I went to the Alternative Teaching school, it was so much fun. Are you happy with your college courses?
I can do all things through Christ which Strengtheneth me. Phillipeans 4:13
Keep that in mind.

Answer 6

Reading that reminded me so much of myself. First of all, know that killing yourself is NOT the answer. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Although it may not seem like it now, things will get better for you. But you have to do something first. You have to change your outlook and start thinking positive. I know that's hard to do, especially when you feel like your life sucks. Everyday I have to force myself to go on because I often feel like my life has no purpose either. Like you I feel like an outcast. I pretty much am an outcast. I'm not close to anyone and I often feel like I'm wearing masks around people just so I can appear normal. As crappy as my life can get, I know that if I killed myself there would be no chance of things every getting better for me. I would be a quitter and wouldn't even have given myself the chance to experience the good things life has to offer. Try to hang in there. Get yourself a journal or notebook to write your feelings in. I do this and it helps me too. I hope things get better for you.

Answer 7

I'm really sorry to hear how down you are, but know that you're not alone. Many people who seem to have it together on the outside are broken on the inside. I find myself acting like I'm ok when I really just want to reach out and talk to someone.

Something that changed my life, though, is my relationship with Jesus Christ. When I saw myself in the light of eternity, everything else seemed to fall into perspective. It's not about religion or rituals or a checklist, it's about a real God who created you to love Him and serve Him. He is an amazing God who has seen how many times we have screwed up and rebelled against Him, yet He sent his Son Jesus to die for us anyway and wash away our guilt and shame.

I pray you have a Bible and you can read the gospel of John (or check out the link below) to see who this Jesus was. He says it's never too late to turn back to Him. Also check out some of the Psalms to see the pain and raw emotions that even the people of God struggle with. Know that I'm praying for you...that God will give you peace and joy because of the Gift of forgiveness that's been given to us through His Son.

"The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn His face toward you and give you peace." ~Numbers 6:24-26

Answer 8

Hey,been there.Done that.Find something to do.Don't worry if you don't fit in.I never did!I ended up going away.Good choice-bad place.If you had what I had.Its an empty,hurt you can't handle.No one cared,no one would listen.Everyone was fake.Everyone thought I was stupid,weird.I was the local 'liar'.So you are NOT alone.Fitting in is desireable,but not everyone does in this sleezy,selfish world.I found that out.I am somewhat of a loner.Still not a lot of people talk to me.Alot of my problem is I had to discover who I was cause I was lost.And I re discovered the Lord.The real Lord.He showed me alot of 'right' things that the world was wrong about.Hang in there.

Answer 9

Hey do you know why you feel that way? You feel that way because you don't think life is worth living right? You should find something that will give you a motive for living...I suggest you get a puppy or a kitten and raise it up and take good care of it and/or start a sport or start running and getting into good shape, or learn how to cook food really really well that's always fun, you could start reading alot of books but I think you should start going to church and start a religion and study history and help others with your life just don't give up and don't feel sorry for yourself...wake up and deside to do something and jsut do it don't look for sympathy just live your life to help others as best you can...

I'm pulling for you...Don't give up!

-Moose

Answer 10

i think you better go outside and find friend
you can't trust somebody even your family now
but there is someone who can trust
one person at least

i was like you when i was 25yr old.
i had very good job and i was in charge of the one department. i worked till11:30pm sometimes, went gym 2-4times a week, had boyfriend...i always felt a sense of fulfillment....
but he cheated on me
one day I'm going to party with him but his another girlfriend's friend said "you can't go with him. he has another girlfriend to go with!"
i did know he had another girlfriend but that party was special party .....
from then on i couldn't concentrate on my job and everything...
later...
i got married
he was just a friend for a long time, and i didn't like him so much. i stood him up sometime...but we talk on the phone a lot. gradually i changed. he changed too....

you can get someone special someday
you are not stupid and weird. OK?
there is a lot of stupid people outside.
i know some guy he has 3 children, wife is pregnant now but no job and cheating on his wife....
he is stupid not you!!
at least you're studying. concentrate on your study and go outside. distract your mind from your worries...
if you commit suicide ...... now you are stupid! OK?