ok, I am talking about no boyfriend no husband...
Being alone at home during pregnancy and after labor.
Be honest please.
2007-07-01 15:09:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Alright.... I'm a single mother. I have a 15 month old little girl. Her father hasn't really been in the picture at all. Maybe once and a while just to see her for a few minutes, but that is about it. I don't get child support. Being a single mother is probably one of the hardest things I will ever have to do. I don't ever get a break, unless I'm at work or school and she is at daycare. I haven't dated since who knows when because I don't get out to meet people anymore! Financially it is really difficult.... she comes first obviously. Being a single mom is not easy..... however, I know I wouldn't change anything now. I can't imagine her not being here.
2007-07-01 15:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by emtmissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I wish you all the best. I hope you will be relatively active during the pregnancy, not just sitting there waiting for the baby to come--very unhealthy. A lot of women give birth without their mate there, and usually the hospitals are very supportive. But then you go home. How will you get home. I guess you can take a cab. I believe it will be pretty tough once the baby comes. Unless you can stock up on all the essentials before the birth. You are going to need a lot of diapers, wipes, sleepers, Dreft, pacifiers (all that stuff), pads for yourself, food. It's a lot to bundle up the baby and diaper bag, put it in the carrier, drive someplace, put the baby in a cart, shop, come home, unload and watch the baby all at the same time. Do you have someone who can look in on you. Obviously, where there's a will, there's a way, and it will get easier once you get the hang of things and your new routine. The baby is a gift, not a burden, but a big responsibility. Make sure you get a stroller so you and the baby can get outside every day for some fresh air. Call the Health Department and see if there's a visiting nurse or some support program for single moms. God give you strength and ask for his direction every day, minute, hour, whatever you need.
2007-07-01 22:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a child is a lot of work and you need a support system of some kind. Either family or friends who you can count on to help you when the going gets rough. Sometimes you will just need a break and you will want other friends with children so that you can talk about different things with them. I'm so sorry you do not have a boyfriend or a loving husband to share this joy with.
Get books from the library and research it on the internet before you come to any conclusion. Never have unprotected sex because once you have a baby then it is very easy to get pregnant again and you do not need another one. Good luck in whatever you do.
2007-07-01 22:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by kimballama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard because you won't get a break. it will be you getting up in the middle of the night no matter how tired you are because there isn't anyone else. If the baby gets sick, you are the one that has to take off work. If you want to date or do anything with other adults, you are the one that has to pay for the sitter. It will be hard but I know plenty that have done it.
2007-07-01 22:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok listen i may be young but ive almost had to go through it and ive seen one to many people go through it.. Its something you dont wanna go through just trust me, your going to suffer yes the idea of bringing YOUR own child into this world is a beautiful thing, but at the same time, wheres the father at? is he going to pay child support? If no then looks like your gunna have to go through this all on your own. Unless your rich fine you have nothing to worry bout except for the fact that the baby wont have a father to be with, you need to think not only for yourself, but for your babys life aswell. First think of you, do you have the money? How old are you? If your really young you'll ruin your life, no more going out, no partying, no this no that, You'll be stuck home taking care of your baby, and you'll grow old by the minute. My girlfriend struggles and she has a boyfriend and shes struggling like crazy, just wait atleast untill your married, it will be the best for you and your baby.
2007-07-01 22:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's very personal. It is difficult without doubt, but still a personal experience. Good luck. The truth is that it's not really easy with support. I know regarding my wife's "complaints". I do believe that if you are willing and able, raising a child will be beneficial in ways that cannot be imagined without the benefit of experience. Again, good luck!
2007-07-01 22:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never done it, but I would imagine yes. I have a husband who is very helpful and it was VERY hard for me. After the first few months things get easier, but at first it's very hard. You are soooooo tired. More tired than you've ever been in your life. Your hormones are out of control and it's all just very, very hard.
2007-07-01 22:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jen F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy being the only parent but alots of women do it. After you deliver you can always get help from family and friends. Dont forget you can get alot of help from state too if your a single mommy.
2007-07-01 22:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be VERY HARD!!! believe me! really! You'd be exhausted emotionally, physically and most of all Financially.Who do you think would assist you during labot?that would be very painful!you need help Girl!
2007-07-01 22:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by crookshanks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can only be as hard as you make it by not letting anyone help if they want you will make it harder for yourself try getting some kind of support you can do it -kristy
2007-07-01 22:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋