but i am in love.
2007-07-01 14:02:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It sounds like there's a lot of things about not being straight that you're still trying to figure out. I'm sorry people are being so mean as to do nothing but pick on your spelling. You're definitely not alone in having to navigate this situation. There's a lot of people out there in the same boat. I hope some of them answer you.
As your child is growing up, as long as he sees you are confident in yourself and loving of him he will be fine. Those two things will give him the stability and self-confidence that he will need to grow up into a fine young man.
I'm sorry that people are forgetting that a woman can still be learning about her own sexual orientation and raising a child at the same time. Good luck to you.
2007-07-01 14:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kid is 2, he doesn't have a concept of it. It's not right or wrong for him.
In other words the problem here is you, you think what you're doing is wrong. Your kid won't care. Your kid might care if he was say 20, but even that's iffy.
Think instead of if you're setting the right example by withholding this or not. I mean on the one hand you can be yourself, a lesbian, and your kid won't care. On the other hand you can live a lie, and specifically lie to your son, and then he will care when he finds out later on.
In other words be yourself, your kid won't judge you. You also won't have to tell much, he's 2. It's like asking how to teach a 2 year old rocket science, you can't. You can merely answer his questions when he has them. But seriously he won't care one bit.
For your sake, and his, be yourself. And stop thinking you're a bad mom because you're lesbian. You're a bad mom if you lie to your child, not if you date women.
Also consider moving somewhere more liberal, like a fair sized city, so that your boy doesn't have to grow up with the same narrow views of right and wrong that you did, just save him the hassle.
Again, lying is wrong, being a lesbian isn't. Get over your issues, maybe then you'll realize your boy doesn't have them. But if you hold onto them he will learn it, and grow up with the same hangups you did.
2007-07-02 00:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until he's a bit older. When you feel that the time is right tell him that you're different and that there's a reason why he doesn't have a father. Believe I don't see how that can set a bad example. If he turns out gay be assured that it wasn't your fault. It might even leave him more open minded about lesbians and gays. And to tell you the truth that is in no way setting a bad example. Just always be sure to listen to nobody but your own heart. That thing in your chest that keeps you alive will never ever leave you abandonned. I hope that you are filled with courage when that time finally comes.
2007-07-01 21:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Luis_F_R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, don't refer to yourself as a dyke.
Also, when it comes to examples you have to think about your child and how being with a woman is going to affect him. Will it confuse him? Will be a lesbian make it difficult for him as a child?
Maybe when he gets older, it will be better to explain that concept but until then you have to make the best decisions for your child and put your feelings last. As soon as you gave birth to your little boy, he came first. His feelings, his surroundings, everything must reflect how you want your boy to view the world and become a special person in society.
2007-07-01 21:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by darcanjle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
now a days it isnt too big of a deal. the only thing that concerns me is he will miss out on a father figure in his life.
but if you are good to him, at least he will have a good mother. and since you are not doing anything morally wrong (being a dike isnt morally wrong), you are not setting any bad example for him.
2007-07-01 21:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your personal life should not be what you are teaching your little one right now. You should be teaching him love and respect of others, how to be responsible, and you should NOT be hanging all over your lover in front of this child...Let Him have the opportunity to find out what he wants out of life, and you instill all the qualities that will make him the best human being possible...Please, don't think I am being mean, i am being honest...Your sexual life should have NOTHING to do with him right now...he'll figure it out someday anyway...Teach him morals, kindness, love of fellow man GOD AND JESUS...it's on you..what you give you will recieve
2007-07-01 21:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 2 years old your sexuality is none of your son's business. Let him get older before telling him. Sex is confusing enough for kids. I'm a gay dad and it doesn't seem to really matter to my kids...they love me no matter what sexual preference I have.
2007-07-02 09:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by flash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Troll. Even a lesbian would know how to spell dyke the right way.
3 hours ago you wanted to know what it was like to have sex with a girl.
2007-07-01 21:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
He's 2. You don't need to go in depth with him. If you are going to introduce your GF to him, just call her your girlfriend. It's very simple when they are 2.
2007-07-01 21:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you call yourself a "dike"? I smell a troll.
2007-07-01 21:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by Rob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋