I have a very important decision to make and I'm looking for some suggestions or whatever here. I am looking to marry my girlfriend at the beginning of next year. I am from the US and she is from Canada. We have talked about living in Canada. The problem though, is if we move there I will have to start school all over again because the college system is different. Plus, I only have $25,000 saved, which is enough to buy a car and a payment on a house, but I will have to pretty much start my life all over again. I have suggested that we wait until the fall when I'll have twice as much money saved up, but she wants to get married at the beginning of next year. What should I do??? Please help!!!!!
2007-07-01 11:32:17 · 12 answers · asked by gododjgjodjod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is the rush to marry either at the beginning of the year, or in the fall ? If you're still in school, try to finish school first.
Then once school is out of the way, you and she can marry and live where ever you both want. Decisions need to be made with the thought of what is the best outcome for both of you, and your future.
2007-07-01 16:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every country has it's "own college system", you do not have to start school all over (be nice to know what kind of degree you have), they will do testing and you will have to go to school for country specific classes only, it's not a big deal really.
Myself, I would see how far my money can take me, what purchasing power will you have in either country. Imagine buying property in MO vs CA, big difference there.
How about family, do you both have family and how close are you to them. After you get married I'm sure you'll have children, baby sitters and day care is very expensive, grand ma's come in real handy those times.
How about work? do you both hold jobs and/or moving what the possibilities of finding one in the new area for either.
It's a big decision, look at all the aspects not just from your side but your fiance's also.
Congratulations and good luck to both of you
2007-07-01 18:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by scalloper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always better, imho, not to rush into marriage. A wedding is much more enjoyable if you have plenty of time to plan and both of the people involved feel comfortable with the timing of it. Maybe just explain to your girlfriend that if you wait, you will be in a much better financial situation that will make your new life together as husband and wife much less complicated and more peaceful and happy. About Canada, I guess there are probably pros and cons with living in either place. Is it possible for you to finish your education in the US and then get a job and move to Canada after you graduate?
2007-07-01 18:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrige, the begininng of a new life. Dont let her push just cause she wants. Dude, get it right first time around, trust me it will be better in the long run. Also give you more time to iron out the finer details of moving to canada. Dont hurry this up cause she is in a hurry. Just take your time and do it right with the right amount of money. Good Luck
2007-07-01 18:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sheet of paper and make 2 columns. On one side list positive aspects of moving to Canada and on the other side list negative aspects.
See which side fills up faster.
Why is she in a hurry?
That is a hefty chunk of money....what does she bring into the relationship?
I say wait until you are comfortable with your decision whatever it is.
2007-07-01 18:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by b14417@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide yourself.
I would be inclined to say that if you are planning to spend your life together, you should be sensible and wait if you can have twice as much money. Why should there be such a rush. You are giving up a lot by moving, she should accept that and be happy to wait.
2007-07-01 19:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice save your money so you are better off and wait for a late date to get married.
2007-07-01 18:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by dannyfrog07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married and have her move here til you have more money saved up to move back to canada. what's her hurry?
2007-07-01 18:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the money. If she's the right girl, go get her. They don't come along every day.
2007-07-01 18:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you she will wait. It would all be better for her in the long run.
2007-07-01 18:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by ~*:•JENN•:*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋