I lost my husband a couple of months ago. One reason to go on living?

Question

I'm in total despair. I don't see any reason to keep going. We didn't have any kids...

Answer 1

Everyone has a purpose on this planet. You are here for a reason.

People need your laughter, your jokes, your smiles, your tears and your thoughts. Family and even strangers. All it takes is one smile to change someone's day for the better.

Think about what your husband would want for you. He would want you to go on and live life to it's fullest.

Just remember he is there with you and all around you.

The pain will eventually lessen.

I hope everything turns out ok for you.

Answer 2

I can completely understand how you would be upset to the point of not wanting to live anymore. Regardless of the fact that you have no kids the best reason you can live & should go on living is because Life brings many harsh dissapointments & pain but it will eventually get better & b/c your husband would want you to live a good life (that doesn't mean that you have to be w/ anyone else or forget about him). You just can't lay down & die even over a tragedy like that one. I am very sorry for your loss. I hope things get better for you soon.

P.S. Keep this in mind "It's gonna hurt bad before it gets better"

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss. The crushing pain you feel right now is almost more than anyone should have to bear... but it is normal for what you have been through. Seek a support group and spend some time with others who have lost their spouses. People come in and out of our lives. Some are sent to us for a "reason", and some are with us for a "season", and some are with us for a lifetime. Your husband was with you for a "season", and no one knows why. His death seems useless. You have lost your direction in this life. But there is a reason he was taken and you were left here. The reason will come clear over the next phase of your life. You have something you need to do.... Someone you need to help.... Something you are supposed to accomplish.... Someone you need to meet. Look for your purpose. There is something wonderful in your future that you would not have been able to have accomplished if you were not left here on Earth to carry on after his death. Seek your new destiny and make him proud of you for being so strong !!! Bless You !! I can tell you are a wonderful person. My life is better for just being able to send you this message !!!

Answer 4

Of course you are devastated. Anyone would be, and my heart aches for you. My first instinct was to say a short prayer for both you and your husband.

Think about what he would want. I'll bet he'd smile softly and tell you to do what you know is right. I'm thinking that would be to spend some time recalling your love and all that you mean to each other.

He'll always be in your heart and that's right where he always wanted to be anyway, whether he was with you or not. He would want you to carry on with your life and celebrate him in every thing you do. And in celebrating him you will make sure that your family and friends know how strong his love is making you...sure, you'll probably have to fake that part for a while, but trust me, he'll be there holding your hand.

And when you feel a whisp of breeze when there is none, and when something you're looking for turns up after you've given up, that will be him.

God bless.

Answer 5

Go on living because he would have wanted you to.

Please, please reach out to someone in your area that you are connected to (family, friend, priest, doctor, counselor) and let them know how you are feeling. They will help you get through this very difficult time and find joy in living the everyday. I can understand the darkness that surrounds your heart right now. Know that, slowly that darkness can lift, bringing light to your life again. You will laugh again, sing again, be happy again - and feeling that way won't negate the love you have for your husband or the fact that you miss him. By becoming the woman you were when you were with him actually honors his memory more than being a shell of a person holding onto tremendous grief and sadness.

I wish you peace, strength, and courage to chose to get through this difficult time.

Answer 6

I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. I don't know your age, but regardless...you must remember him for the good times you shared together and for the things you learned from the relationship. Time will help. I'm 35 and have a 6 year old son...I lost my wife in February of this year to a quick and sever case of the flu. Understanding that time and the fact that other people share losses as yours and go on is what you have to know. Look for support from family and friends...and don't forget to make "new friends". You can grow from this to be a stronger person and help others, which will in turn help you....I know you can.

Answer 7

It is hard dealing with the absence of a loved one, not to talk about your loved one passing away. As hard as it is to deal with this loss, It is not enough reason to despair as much as you are doing now. I do not know how old you are now but not having kids by your late husband does not mean you can not carry on with what ever legacy he left behind or better still, the legacy that you need to leave behind yourself. Please pull yourself together. There's still life for you and your husband passed on. Take heart.

Answer 8

You must keep going. Would he have wanted it this way? I don't think so. I know it is difficult. We lost our son 2 years ago and then we lost my father in law. You must be strong and take one day at a time. I will not say it gets better with time because there is not a moment that passes that I don't think about my son. If you have a Hospice office near you call them. They offer free counseling for a year after you loose a loved one. Stay strong and good luck.

Answer 9

You asked for one reason and that one reason is YOU!!!! Taking care of yourself is one way to help your husband. When my mother passed away I felt like you did. She was THE ONE person on earth I knew loved me unconditionally. I was suicidal and then I realized the more I cried and was not myself she could not go in being pain free and enjoying her own special heaven. I hope this helps and if you need to talk I know you do not know me but I will listen. If you can join a local support group. I wish you the best. My email is [e-mail]

Answer 10

Mourning is about despair. There are books on how to deal with loss at your public library, at bookstores and online through Amazon. There are therapy groups that deal with grieving. You weren't born with your husband and you were fine before meeting him and you will return to this state again.

You have just been handed a huge loss and as you deal with this loss, you will overcome your grief and return to normal.