If your Son/Daughter was Gay how do u think u would react?

Question

Honesty would be nice :)

Btw to Helens who asked

Im straight and have no kids, but just wondered and thought it would be interesting to know your reactions

Answer 1

My almost 18 year old son came out yesterday and told me he's Bi...

I've known for years that he liked boys too, he just never admitted it before, until he realised that it really doesn't bother me.

At the end of the day your child has to live their life as they see fit, and they have to live with being gay, bi or even straight, all we can do as parents is be supportive.

Answer 2

I would feel concern for them because, even though things are getting better, as a homosexual they will probably face discrimination and ridicule they should not be subjected to, but unfortunately it happens. So in that regard, I'd feel sad. Otherwise, I really hope I'd show them love and acceptance -- really nothing different than if they were straight. I have a transgendered friend who has faced a lot of rejection from his family and I would not want to put that on my kids (if I ever have any) if they happened to be gay, transexual, crossdressers, etc, etc.

Answer 3

I would be glad that they felt comfortable telling my wife and I, and glad that they have come to accept this part of themselves, because it takes a lot of soul-searching to realize that sexuality is a normal and beautiful part of life.

I would be a little concerned, however, for their safety. Not because of STDs or anything, because I plan to teach my future children comprehensive sex ed no matter what their orientation or identity is. I would talk with them to make sure that they know there are a lot of hate-filled people in the world, and help them realize that 1. there is nothing at all wrong with being gay and they should be proud of who they are and 2. there are places and people, including us, that can help them if they ever fear for their health or safety due to homophobia.

So I would not have a problem with my child being gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, transsexual, straight, or anything else as long as they are happy, healthy, and respectful of others. My worries would lie in how the community treats my children.

Answer 4

I would find it a little hard at first,but then I would be fine. I love her & it does help that I have been raised with a gay guy who lived with us most of the summer & have a few gay cousins.
I don't know how her dad would take it though. He's from Northern Ireland & in the area he's from there was a family with 3 very twisted gay men so that has skewed his view of gay people. He doesn't like gay people,but he will tolerate them. I don't know how it would be if it was his own blood.

Answer 5

I have two daughters and they are only 10 and 4. I would not like it but I love them more than anything and I would have to accept it. I will have to accept the fact that even if I do not have gay daughters and they are straight they still could marry some jerk I hate. I try not to think of that. LOL!

Answer 6

I am gay, and my step son, all 18 years old of him, came out to his dad and me about six months ago. In doing so, he said that growing up in a gay house with two gay fathers helped him understand himself. He share this with only a few trusted folks. As he prepares to leave for college, I have been spending time with him sharing parts of what is was like for me to be gay, 18, going away to school and all that goes with this in hope that he might have an easier time.

In all, there is no way I could be more proud of him - and I tell him on every occassion that I can.

Answer 7

As long as my son was happy then i would support him all the way.
I would worry about him though as there is still a lot of homophobics out there who would give him a hard time but God help them if i ever caught them, they'd get a swift toe up the backside because no matter what i would fight Goliath for my kids.
I just want for my sons to be happy in life and content with their lot, to be honest though i wouldnt choose that lifestyle for them because it isnt an easy path to take. Society hasnt fully matured enough to accept that each individual is entitled to do their own thing as long as it doesnt harm anyone else.

ps. as for the comments from answerer about not trusting christians, i take offence to that comment, i myself am a roman catholic and would never dream of hurting anyone because of their sexuality etc. Please dont tar us all with the same brush and label all christians as sick as these fundamentalists who seem hell bent on turning the whole world on its head by abusing their chosen religion to suit their own small minded, bigoted views.

Answer 8

honestly... I'd be a little afraid for him or her, because of all the haters out there. I'd thank him for telling me. Give him a big hug. Then light a cigarette, because this is big news. I'd ask him if he's found somebody. Ask him if he was a nice guy. I'd give him a standing invitaton to being him over so I could have a look at him and have a nice chat. I'd probably wind up asking if they had, well, you know... had sex. no, then I'd tell him about how sex is about love, and to be absolutely, positively sure that this guy is the right one before opening up and letting him in that way. (I mean BOUNDARIES, not BUTT CHEEKS for all the dirty minded people out there!)

If yes, then ask him, protected? Please let it be protected, because unless you really, really know that someone, you have to be careful, oh God let it be protected!

I'd have to warn him, though it probably wouldn't be necessary to do so, that there are a lot of haters out there, and some masquerade as gay men, so that they can beat up or kill somebody gay. That's why mommy doesn't go to church, that's why mommy prays at home.

Then I'd tell him I am happy for him that he knows now what his orientation is, and ask him if he feels better getting that off his chest. I'd tell him I love him and I'm so proud of him for telling me.

Then when i'm alone with my thoughts, I'd worry about him, if he's going to be okay, if any maniac isn't going to try to hurt him, think about meeting his boyfriend, what i'm going to cook for dinner, something really nice, what i'm going to wear to make a good impression, and then thinking about the haters, I'd apply for a firearm owner's card, and buy a large caliber manstopper. Maybe a .44 revolver, or an M1911, though I hear the Beretta 92 is reliable. Because it's a mommy's job to protect her kids, and failing that, vengeance too is an act of love, from a certain point of view. I do not trust the courts, the police or the government, and I trust Christians as much as I can trust the devil himself not to hurt my baby.

This, in painful honesty is how I would react to my son being gay, were I a mom.

Answer 9

I love all my kids and I would still love them just as much if they turned out to be gay. However, as the oldest is 13 this is all in the future anyhow, but he's already had several girl friends. As for the others, they're too young. It wouldn't make any difference to me if they are gay and I have several gay friends anyhow.
Your kids are still your kids what ever their sexual orientation. I just want them to grow up and have happy and fulfilled lives.

Answer 10

Hopefully with a good understanding, don't have children myself, but do have a nephew who is, and has only ever admitted to myself that he is gay. His mum does know this, and has accepted his life style after all he is still the baby she gave birth to and loves him the same as she always has, although the one regret we have is that he won't be having a family of his own, but then are our thoughts being selfish on him?..