If a man stays home with his kids while his wife goes out, do you think he is going above and beyond his duty?

Question

i.e. his duty as a father and husband.

Answer 1

I hope thats a joke.

Answer 2

I'd say he is doing what is right, not more or less.

Going above and beyond would be giving birth to the babies!

If the wife is constantly doing this, then it is obsessive. If the husband gets to go out once in a while while she stays home with the children, then things remain even.

But taking care of children is not going above and beyond!

Hope you can take a night off once in a while and catch a movie together and hire a sitter or get a good family member to give you a night out together!! THAT WOULD BE above and beyond the call of duty from the friend that does it for nothing!

Taking care of your kids is part of the program!!!

No extra gold stars here bud! :)

Answer 3

A father's duty is to take care of his children, wife's help or not. He's not going above or beyond anything, he's doing what he's supposed to do. As for letting his wife go out while he watches the little 'uns, as a mum and wife she probably does a lot around the home. A wife deserves a night out every once in a while.

Answer 4

No... He's being a father and a husband. If a wife stays home while her husband goes out, is she going above and beyond? I think that women need time out with friends the same as men do, and the kids are his too. He can watch them for a few hours. Its part of being a father.

Answer 5

No definately not above and beyond his duty as a father and a husband. Your duty as a father is to look after your children and as a husband your duty is to help your wife when she need. As long as your wife is willing to do the same for you than its fair. Better still why do you both get someone to look after the kids and you both go out together.

Answer 6

A marriage is two parts, half and half. If a man works to provide for his family and a woman stays home raising kids and keeps the home fires burning then everything that needs to get done, gets done. And vise versa.

In my home my wife works along with me, however I am the main bread - winner and work more hours and more more days than she does. She mainly pulls a weeknight or two on second shift and weekends. When I am at work she "fills" the home. When she's at work it then becomes my job to nurture the kids and take care of things around the house.

I assume that the question was asked by either someone who either feels guilty for not being home and is having that "thrown in their face" or someone who feels under appreciated. None the less I believe that the real answer is communication in the relationship regardless of your role in it.

Answer 7

In some situations, where the man gives birth to the children it is considered above and beyond his duty. So my answer would be yes in some situations.

Answer 8

if a woman stays home when her husband goes out is she going above and beyond her duty?
if both of you are fine with that idea then who cares.
if thats the way u feel you should let her know.
good luck

Answer 9

No, the man also has the responsibility to take care of the family. Kids are family. He hasnt gone above his duty but fullfills his duty wonderfully. I think that would be greatly appreciated by women, so we ladies can go out and have some fun sometimes.

Answer 10

No, it's part of his responsiblity as husband and father. It's a shared responsibility to care for the kids. Women should have the freedom to go out without the family every now and then.

Answer 11

No, he's not. Saves money on babysitters, I should think. Of course, it might be helpful to clarify if the husband expects the wife to stay home with the kids while HE goes out.