I'm a 27 year old male and I'm begining to wonder if I am BI. Thing is, I've been in a relationship with a girl for almost 3 years though its been serious about 2. Things are going pretty well, in fact I re-located about an hour away from where I was to be closer. I am pretty shy and I'm kinda hard to get to know so I only have a couple of close friends plus my GF n thats cool with me. I've never been in a gay realtionship or really never seriously thought about it. I'm happy being with my GF and all but I guess my interest in guys has kinda evolved over time(mostly have fetishs). I'm not sure how this came to be. When I masterbate I have fantasies about guys and sometimes I'll get really hard ***** if I see a good looking guy in public or theres a couple guys at work that have that effect. However, when me and my GF have sex its just about us, I'm not thinking about guys then. Noone knows about this and I'm scared to say anything and fear losing my girl but I cant help these feelings
2007-07-01 10:41:10 · 10 answers · asked by BS and thats no BS 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I just fear that my Gf won't trust me if I tell her. I'm scared shes gonna think that I'm gonna run off with some guy. If something did happen in the relationship and the right guy came along I would be very tempted.
2007-07-01 10:57:46 · update #1
Sounds like you are confused and trying to be honest with yourself....... before you speak to your girlfriend or any friend about it, you might want to consider counseling....... it doesn't mean you are crazy, but counseling lets you speak openly to a person who is not going to judge you and will keep your feeling secret....... whatever you decide is right for you, good luck and be happy........
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2007-07-01 12:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by PNSGUY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not also thinking about other women that you see, you're at the age when Saturn returns and you should sort this out before you keep her thinking she's everything to you.
But, fantasy is one thing; finding hot sex with a hot guy is not hard to do, but having a loving relationship is not that easy to find. It's a tough choice, and if you'll take a step back and think about all the aspects of your relationship with her, like humor, possessiveness, how you 2 handle anger, politics, money, communication, physical attraction, and intellect.
If you find there's a lot wrong in your current relat., you might be staying with her because you are familiar, comfy, and don't want to hurt her.
I wouldn't talk too deep about it with her until you have a safe trick or two and see what reality is like with a guy.
Remember it could really make her sad, so if you do feel it's time to move on, be kind and honest.
2007-07-01 11:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by topink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You have a big choice to make. Do you tell her or not? You could always ask her waht she thinks about bi-sexuality. You could also ask her if she has any fantasies about being with 2 men at the same time. My 2nd ex-husband was bi-sexual, but I didn't find out until we had a 3-some with another guy. He never knew I was bi, but my fiance that I have knows. He's the only person of my friends that know though.
2007-07-01 13:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Araiha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well go ahead and have feelings, but you need to draw a line for yourself, not because of your sexuality but because of your relationship. You need to stop short of cheating, emotional or physical. Beyond that it's just a fantasy, and that's perfectly okay.
Unless you renegotiate your relationship though you need to remember that monogamy is key. Keep it a fantasy.
But yeah, sounds like you're describing bisexuality. Not a big deal, it's said that 80% of people are bisexual to varying degrees, so if that's true you're more normal than a lot of people.
2007-07-01 10:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend, sexuality is never black and white, there is always gray area.
We are all made up of biological and sociological factors that make us the people we are or the people we become. If you are attracted to men, I think that it is healthy for you to play that out in fantasy. Whether you choose to take that further into actual sexual experience or not, is certainly up to you. Society still, after thousands of years, teaches most of us that attraction to members of the same sex is wrong. If you can bring yourself to believe that consensual sexual relations between adults that is mutually enjoyable is okay, I think you will be happy with who you are.
As adults we have our own sexual values and as long as we are comfortable with those, we can be comfortable with ourselves and others.
I wish you all the best! Bob
2007-07-01 10:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Robert C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the skill to fall in love with a guy or woman, regardless of gender. for many, it has little to do with intercourse, and greater to do with how somebody makes you sense. i'm thankfully married to a guy with a girl descendant and yet another on the way, yet i substitute into as quickly as in love with a woman. i substitute into in love together with her because of the fact she had a extensive heart and alter right into a alluring man or woman that I had a good time with. that did no longer paintings out and that i met my husband, who's additionally a impressive guy or woman whom i like very lots. on occasion you do no longer might desire to comprehend human beings with the intention to comprehend and settle for who they're.
2016-10-03 08:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by koffler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I somtimes wonder the same thing myself. Actually what you wrote almost descibes my thoughts to a tee. I think it is okay though if you are at least that is what I tell myself.
2007-07-01 11:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
big deal if ur bi so what its not like its a bad thing and if ur bi u can pick to stay with ur gf
2007-07-01 10:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're bi. There's nothing wrong with that.
2007-07-01 10:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by shadowofu_love29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obv your bi, face it, stop trying to hide it ITS JUST WHO YOU ARE
2007-07-01 10:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by *-kC-* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋