2007-07-01 10:39:06 · 15 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
why should it matter? you are looking for SOUL mate, not a beauty mate are you? Go for it girl, life is short, why should we waste it away with regrets, what if's, and could have beens? LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST!!!
2007-07-01 10:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Pese, luv & HATE UofM 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should never omit to tell anyone something of that importance.
Don't set yourself up for disappointment. You should know by now that there are alot of people that are not welcoming of some people with disabilities.
How would you feel, lets consider you do not have a disability, and you showed up to meet this person and they did have a disability that you had no idea about? I would not be mad but maybe disappointed. Don't take any offense by me saying that - you did not state what your disability is.
Just wondering, how could you get so involved with someone on line and nto mention your disability?
I met my husband on line and talked with him thru chats and phone calls for about a year before I met him in person. There wasn't 1 thing he didn't know about me.
If you tell this person that you have a disability beforehand you will find out what type person they really are. If they don't accept the fact then you have saved yourself alot of trouble.
good luck and I hope it turns out for the best!!
2007-07-01 18:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by *** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be afraid to be honest, because you may feel he
may not be accepting of someone with a disability.
But, my dear, you must be honest. A relationship with anyone
can not grow if we are dishonest or secretive about ourselves
and our lives.
I, too, am disabled; I was not born that way, I developed an
illness when I was older.
My husband is also disabled. He had strokes five years ago
and has little vision and is mentally slower than he used to
be. Do I love him any less? Not at all. I feel for him and
all he has lost, but I love him---the person he is, not what
he can and cannot do.
And there is someone who will love you, too, as you are---
I do not know if it is this gentleman on line or not....as I do
not know either of you.
But if you would like to see your relationship develop further,
you must be honest with him.
I hope he is being honest with you, too.
Bless you,
Doris
WithWingsofAngels@comcast.net
2007-07-01 22:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Doris L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meeting someone online can be dangerous. Was it a dating site? Please make sure that people know where you are before you go. I think you should tell him, and if he minds he is a shallow jerk. But just be confident honey, if he likes you then it wont matter. I would not mind if I liked someone who I later found out was disabled, as long as he was a great person.
2007-07-01 17:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't really know you if you haven't talked enough to know about your disability. Before you meet someone you think is important to you each of you should have disclosed major issues like health, children, extreme debt, attractiveness and religion or lack of religion. Otherwise you don't really know each other only the persona they are presenting to the internet public.
2007-07-01 18:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you better tell them before you meet ... hey wouldn't it be ironic if they were disabled too and were debating the same thing? if you do tell them and they don't care and you do go ahead and agree to meet each other ... just be on the safe side and let people know where you are goin' and when! good luck .. take care babe!
2007-07-01 17:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ding Bat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disabled ? disability is not unable to love it's just a set back in your mind or the closed minded people thinkGOD put each and evey one of us hear for love and find love i think if he's looking for love it's a good chance he'll find it in you
2007-07-01 19:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Fred M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't easy to do but tell him when the time is really right. What is your disability? Is it something he may notice right away?
2007-07-01 19:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your are disabled and what type of disability you have. No one is perfect.
2007-07-01 17:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him before you meet so that he can think about it before he meets you and be prepared. Hopefully he won't mind!
2007-07-01 17:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋