so I have to support him while he's with me and while he's with her? doesn't sound like 50/50?
2007-07-01 10:21:42 · 6 answers · asked by chillypowder 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my question is if it's 50% custody shouldn't she be responsible for him 50% of the time? She basically only watches him half the time and has no finacial responsibility seems like a flaw in the system to favor the mother>
2007-07-01 10:36:24 · update #1
I am the residential provider he lives and goes to school about 2 blocks away. she lives about 20 mile away. I am not being petty I have to pay almost $1000 a month, I also cover insurance. should she not have to pay for anything? 50/50 remember.
2007-07-01 10:40:02 · update #2
Her houshold income with her new husband is on par with mine. But I quess the courts don't take that into consideration.
2007-07-01 10:43:25 · update #3
I know I signed them but I was informed by both attorneys and the judge that this is the law since my income is more than her's. Just was wondering why this is? Doesn't seem fair. Don't get me wrong I take care of my son and he wants for nothing. I just don't like paying for my ex's boob job and frequent trips to hawaii. I quess that's just another way the courts stick it to a father when it comes to custody. And before anybody says "You married her" just know she was my high school sweetheart and we never married because "she wasn't ready for a family" . And I'm allowed to make mistakes in high school right? I know "WAAAH WAAH WAAH" signed bitter part of one. Thenks for all the advice
2007-07-01 20:26:06 · update #4
Probably her income level is not on par with yours. The court will try to make sure your son has a standard of living that's about the same in both homes. Additionally your ex may be footing certain other bills such as insurance, tuition, clothing etc... Given that it's your son your supporting, it's best not to get too petty about it.
2007-07-01 10:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know - I am a stepmom and always thought the same - my "son" would come to visit us during the summer and alternating weekends / holidays... for those summer months I especially resented (at the courts - not my "son") having to send in those child support payments... We bought all his food, clothing, entertainment expenses, electricity, etc.. and it just didn't seem right. I could understand the other times of the year when he lived mostly with his mom..
Now that I have sole custody (with husband having visitation rights - supervised) I keep cash in her purse for her "wants" during her time with Dad and a "cash card" charged in case he needs extra money while she's there... (LOL.. she's only 3, but still..) I think that her support money is for her.. not for me, not for him.
2007-07-01 17:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but someone has a crappy lawyer and it's not your ex. 50/50 means the split should be equitable and if you have the child 50% of the time, your deal is not equal at all.
2007-07-01 17:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre obvisiously not the residential custodian of your son so youre the non resident parent who ha visitation rights and has to pay support
2007-07-01 17:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
READ your court papers and find out why. YOU signed them. If you didn't want it this way then WHY did you sign them?
2007-07-01 21:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he's not with you all the time.
2007-07-01 17:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋