Please help, i really need advice...?

Question

My dad and I have always had a strong relationship untill lately, I'm 13 and I asked my parents if I could highlight my hair and my mom said yes and my dad said no, and i can't help but think that me asking that question helped cause this to happen. My mom has a disease, not deadly, and is sick a lot, when she gets better she usually blames my dad for her being sick in the first place, and it's not his fault. So today they were fighting, again, and my dad just left, he took the pop-up trailer and said that he would be back in a few days. Things like this have happend before but he's always told me that things were going to be okay, he would at least say bye, this time I didn't even know that he was gone untill my mom told me so, he didn't say anything to me before he left and it really makes me think what did I do. I'm sick and tired of my parents always fighting and my mom always being a ***** to my dad and all of it, I want to run away and hang out at my grandmas, help plz.

Answer 1

First and foremost your dad does love you, and you have nothing to do with what is happening, you did nothing to make him leave, as a father I know this. The situation just got to a point where he needed to go someplace and clear his head and see if there is a viable solution to the problem. No the highlighting the hair question just came at a bad time thats all. We dads have allot to keep together, bills, work, and if there are relationship problems the easiest answer when we are under allot of stress is no, even if we do not mean it we often speak out because we have reached the limit of what we can handle. Please know fathers love their daughters and sons to no end,

Answer 2

Don't worry, your dad just needs to get away for a few days.
When you are put in the middle like that, do whatever will make the the fighting and anger stop. You are only 13, you might need to swallow your pride at times, it will all work out in the end. The matter of getting your hair hightlighted is only something to get them to start fighting. It is not about your hair. Your dad is upset with himself and feels bad that your mother is always sick and he can't do anything to make her better. You need your dad at all times, you don't really realize it yet. As you get older, you will come to know how much he means to you. I have a 16 year old daughter, who contracted bone cancer two years ago. Even though she can't do much, she still needs me around. Let your dad cool off. When he gets back, tell him you decided to wait six months or longer to get your hair done. Your parents love you very much, and remember that your mother being sick all the time puts an extra amount of stress and strain on your daddy. God bless you and take care of yourself.

Answer 3

Please dont run away. But if you need a break... ask ur parents if you can stay at your Grandmas for a while & explain why!
Its not fair that you feel this way, but YOU cannot control the way your parents behave. (sadly!) So, your parents having conflicting views about your hair.. is NOT YOUR FAULT!!

Worst case scenario is that your parents break up! & im sure you dont want that & neither do they.... but is it any worse than the constant shouting & fighting? NO! so, however hard it seems.... just be the wonderful daughter that u've always been & try not to blame yourself for the things that go wrong!
Try telling your Grandma how you feel, maybe she can explain to your mum & dad how stressed its all making you.
Running away, really wont help.... it wont help you feel better & it wont help the situation between your parents either.
Life is cr*p for kids sometimes... but you will be fine! I promise x

Answer 4

My parents have a bad relationship, too. It's opposite with them though, my mom's great and my dad is the jerk. He has a lot of problems. You just have to know that it is not your fault. I'm basically just waiting for my mom to get a divorce because my dad won't leave even if he threatens to at times.

All you can do is wait it out. Just know that you are not the only teenager with family problems. I wish I could go stay with my grandma but my dad's parents annoy my and my mom's dad lives too far away.

If I were you, I would go to my grandma's. Just don't run away. Tell your mom where you are.

Every day that you endure just brings you closer to freedom.

Answer 5

first of all stop blaming yourself, from what you said it's not you fault.running away will not help anything,in fact could make things not being good between you and your dad..her being sick may not have anything to do with you or your dad. it doesn't sound like you asking that question has nothing to do with happened.maybe they are having other problems and they just don't want to hurt you in any way.it sounds like your dad loves you alot,i don't think he ment to hurt you by not saying good-bye. i also think your mom loves you,i think if you ask her when she is feeling better and your dad they may say yes. talk to grandma and see what she thinks about it.
i hope this will help. i hope your mom gets better soon. i will pray for you all.

Answer 6

I think you should call your grandmother first thing and whe she arrives to pick you up and your packed then you tell your mom. Stay with her a few days maybe a week or how long it takes for you to get better emotionally and give your mom time enough to think. Your parent's really need to work things out, and I wish you all the best.

Answer 7

This is not your fault. This is something between your parents. The only thing you can do and let both of them know how all of this is making you feel. Try not to get into an argument with either one of them over it just be calm and try to talk calmly.

Answer 8

Call your Gma and ask her what to do.