· Do you think love is necessary to have a good marriage?

Answer 1

It helps.

Answer 2

Depends on what you mean by love? Yes, I think that love is necessary to have a 'good' anything! Respect, a desire on your part for the best interests and welfare of other person, to the point of sacrifice, and some physical attraction must all be in the mix.

A lot of people think they must 'fall' in love. The emphasis is usually on the fall. Then they get married. The Hollywood hype is that each party solves the others ultimate problem and supplies their untimate needs. Ultimate is the key wrong word.

How can those who are not complete themselves supply the ultimate for anyone else? Marriage thus becomes two partly empty people attempting to fill some of the other persons emptyness. This only goes so far and works so long. This is where, God, the only true love, must enter the mix.

The truth is that close relationships over time should be seen, not as highlighted events of mutual support, but a process of mutual discovery about life and about each other. A little love begins it and a lot of love should be found at the end of the journey.

People who assume they know what love is cut themselves off from learning. They look at marriage as a beginning or an access to social benefits, a badge of maturity, an absolute human right, and another 'thing' they just gotta have!

Some get wound up in marriage as a door to romantic love. It is a philosophy, the emotional knee jerk, the expected thing to do, and even something that allows them to take on the nature of almighty g-d and bless all those beneath them with "quality time."

Divorce rates say that 50 per cent of those who get married do not know what love is; and were unable to address love in the setting of marriage.

Love is not only necessary but only has one universal expression in marriage or elsewhere. That expression is only found in sacrifice. If one understands this they will have the love necessary for a good marriage.

Scripture admonishes men: "love your wives as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it." To women it speaks of learning how to love and showing respect for her husband by deference to his leadership. Strange talk about love and marriage in today's world of sissy men and agressive women.

The answer remains yes; love is necessary and there is no love aside from God.

Answer 3

I think its possible to have a good marriage without love, as long as both people are content. There is more to marriage than love and love alone isn't enough to keep a marriage together.

Compatability, committment, companionship, communication,shared experiences and memories etc. make a marriage work when the "in love" feeling fades. Without the "in love" feeling to begin with, there is less drama, fewer highs and lows and I think that could be a good thing.

So many otherwise good marriages end in divorce because society tells us that we have to feel in love and happy all of the time. If people were a little more realistic and accepted that "love" comes and goes in a long term relationship, there would be a much lower divorce rate.

Answer 4

For me personally, yes love is necessary for me to be happily married. I know because I was married once before and unfortunately I didn't really love her. I loved her as a person but I wasn't in love with her. The marriage lasted for 1 year. Now, I have an incredible relationship with a woman I truly love, who's my best friend and I am happily married. We've been together for 6 years now and it's better than ever. Deeply loving the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with (supposedly) is very important to having a good, happy marriage. At least for me that's the way it is.

Answer 5

Even when you have love, there is no guarantee that the marriage will be good. There are so many issues that can split a couple apart when they do not agree. I love my hubby the way I define love, but he does not love me the way I define love. It has been enough to get us through but now we are raising a family and the differences are getting more noticeable. Some days it is a struggle to even like him.
In a good marriage, love can grow. I do not think you have to have love to start a marriage, just keep it.

Answer 6

A good marriage? Yes love is vital, but to have a marriage that works, maybe love isnt necessary. For me? Yes love would be required.

Answer 7

Love is not only necessary in a marriage, but should be established far before a married situation occurs.You should not be married if you are asking this question. However, you already are, so you may want to work on that, refresh back to almost dating, not whereother people are an option, but where you can introduce eachother to eachother. learn eachother again, and fall in love again. Love is the back bone of a mariage, without it, it will fall to nothing fast.

Answer 8

Absolutely. Marriage is a give and take situation and sometimes can be very overwhelming at times especially in today's society so yes there has to be love besides why would two people get married if they didn't love each other?

Answer 9

Dear skycat. Is it necessary to have "water to take a shower"? Without love in a marriage there is no marriage, but a friendship, and like friendships it's possible they could die away after a while. You can't bake a cake without the main ingredients "Flour" Just like you can't have a marriage without the main ingredient. LOVE. Best wishes....David

Answer 10

I am old fashion, my definition of marriage means love is a prime ingredient.However some people look at marriage as a comfortable arrangement between two people which is perfectly OK .
Hey whatever work for you,is a good marriage.

Answer 11

I always thought it is necessary until I met a women whose marriage was arranged.. she told me that at the beginning its a bit hard for both but by the time u will get used to each other and it turns to real love. a bit strange but it might be possible to find love that way. they have a son and they respect&love each other soooo much that u cant believe their marriage was arranged..