I got married a year and a half age and I recently have gotten back i contact with my ex. Feelings between us are so strong that its hard to not think about her. We have so much of a connection that everyone can see it even people that don't know us. What should I do?
2007-07-01 08:10:32 · 19 answers · asked by Devrin B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the question is are you really in love and are you truly happy with your current wife and if you are than you need to tell your ex that you are truely happy and in love with how you are with and that you are willing to be her friend but nothin else can happen between the two of you and hope that she will understand and still want to be a part of your life as a friend I know the feeling I am engaged and I just got in contact with an old bf and he is married but we are working thing out good luck
2007-07-01 08:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by pinksmallbubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the connection is so strong, why did you divorce her in the first place? I would hesitate to get back together with her. Will the same issues that destroyed your marriage before not be prevalent the second time around?
It is normal to always care for your ex. After all, you were married to her and that is a bond you will never forget. However, that does not mean you should get back together. Everything is pleasant when you are apart because the issues you had before are now irrelevant. If you hooked up again you would face the same pressures and irritants that you did before. Not only that, but think of your current wife. Do you really want to leave her. If your ex were not in the picture would you still leave your current wife? How do you know that once you split with your wife you will not have a desire to be back with her. Could it be that you want the unattainable? Think about all of these questions before you make our decision.
2007-07-01 15:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be a complete idiot! You have made a vow with your wife to stick together until death. If you break that vow, you will never be trusted. Sure you feel "connected" now, but what about later, when whatever it was that broke you up in the first place..comes back! Was it a mistake for you to marry..maybe. was it a mistake for you to break up with your ex...maybe. Would it be a mistake to see her on the side...YES Would it be a mistake to get a divorce...YES
Take a stand...be a man!
Majestic Red is most probably right....but you could prove her wrong, if you listen to the truth!
2007-07-01 15:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by Big D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a former wife or girlfriend? You were not clear on that. If it's a former girlfriend, you need to stay away, cut off all contact and be the husband you are supposed to be.
If it's a former wife, well that's a different story. The majority of people will tell you not to go back to your former wife. From the biblical point of view, you are not supposed to be divorced from your first wife. You are in adultery with your 2nd wife because your first wife is still living.
2007-07-01 15:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have considered all the scenerios when you got married, including the temptation to cheat. YOU are the one who got married and YOU are the one who will determine if you will be true to your vowels. If not, then go ahead and become a part of the sad statistics of divorce rates. I would suggest not getting married again, until you're sure you can be true to your words and such a big committment.
2007-07-01 15:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by happy kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are married so you should be working on this relationship not worrying about the one you have with your ex. You should leave your ex and alone and she should do likewise out of respect for your wife. If you feel that strongly about your ex, then it is only fair that you tell your wife. No one deserves to be cheated on.
2007-07-01 15:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what we tell you to do because you will do this: You will stay in touch with your ex and have a secret relationship while ignoring your current wife until she realizes there is something wrong. She will find out that you have been cheating on her and then SHE will divorce YOU. The end.
P.S. You should join Jackasses Anonymous.
2007-07-01 15:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by majestic_red 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cut off contact with your ex if there are feelings. Think about your wife's feelings and how she will hurt if you divorce her for this. You made that commitment to GOD and you don't just run when something else comes along. STOP it now before it is too late.
2007-07-01 15:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by KELLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish her the best and stop talking to her. Honestly. I know it sounds cruel but your married. You should stay faithful. Don't hurt your wife. Marriage should be forever, you made a promise to love only your wife. You made it to her, to her family, to your family and to god if you married in a church. Do not go back on that. Wish your ex a long happy life and that should be it.
2007-07-01 15:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by spottychan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMFG I hate people like you!! I hate you people! I hate you so much! I'm sorry, but I just got out of a relationship and I loved him so much and he just didn't love me as much and it was awful! You're an awful person! Because there's no good way to fix your problem. You'll always have feelings for your ex, and the one who truly loves you will be the one who ends up getting hurt just because you don't realize how good you have it!
You people make me sick!
2007-07-01 15:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Bats 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋