What would you do if, you were browsing your husband's parent's computer and you saw a picture of him and a girl he cheated on with a couple of months before you got married? How would you treat the friends that knew about it and did not say anything to you? It appears that he sent the picture to his parents. The other girl is a prostitute, by the way. He keeps saying that nothing happend between them but why send a picture to your parents?
would you live him? would you continue on trying to trust him? If he brought you to the states and you have nowhere to run, what would you do?????
2007-07-01 07:57:09 · 14 answers · asked by phlegm1134 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For everyone's info, I wasn't snooping around. I was helping his mom put up a myspace (his mom was beside me the whole time) and when we were about to upload the pics, it showed up on the pictures. She is a prostitute, I know her and I know she works at the club.
2007-07-02 03:57:03 · update #1
Forget about it. give him the benefit of the doubt.
2007-07-01 09:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by lavell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had a friend who found her husband to be in a hotel room with another female the night of there wedding. And she still went ahead and married him. Now he cheats here there and every where. She has gotten so used to it, doesn't even bat an eyelid. So #I would say yes, I would break it off. Marriage counselling I guess. The person who knew, wouldn't treat any different. Not her mistake.
2016-05-20 02:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like he had an affair with a prostitude and maybe it was going to go further because to be sending pics to his parents of another girl it seems it could of been serious....so u better becareful and keep ur eye on him closely. i wouldn't tell u to live him because it happen before u guys got marry so maybe living him its too fast thinking but don't trust him at all....and even if u feel that he brought u to the states and u have no one to turn to don't let him know that in the other hand let him know that if he messes up u'll live him
2007-07-01 08:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by hey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder if he still cheats and if he did'nt do anything wrong or have anything to hide why didnt he show the picture to you too? I dont get why he sent the picture to his parents...that dont make any since, I mean, why would ya send that type of picture to your parents anyhow. you cant hold it against his friends because its his responsibility to tell you, not theirs. I bet it was'nt a prostitute either!!!
2007-07-01 08:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, the word "cheating" is used too loosely. I wouldn't care what he did before we were married, since we had no real commitment to each other. Either one of us could have walked away before the "I do" was said. If I were married and found out my husband cheated AFTER we were married, he would see my back walking out the door as soon as I could pack my personal belongings.
2007-07-01 08:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will broke at the istant....love and especially marriage is a really serious thing and before a big step like this is necessary that the man i'm going to live with is absolutely what i was looking for,the one perfect for me that don't leave me with doubts and confuse ideas ....so no way to change idea if i discover something wrong before the big step of course there is not going to be a wedding between me and him.
2007-07-01 08:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by olly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if he did had something with her, why on earth would he send a photo of him and a prostitute to his parents??? nothing to be proud of I would think
if he really cheated on you, well I wouldn't trust him any more, sorry! but once a cheater..
and the friends who knew this, maybe they didn't knew how to act but I would tell them how I feel
ask them why they didn't tell you, maybe they didn't want to heart you
any way, I wouldn't trust him for a second
2007-07-01 08:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by sweetera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first... i would talk it over with him and ave him discuss what he did. then you need to remember that you were SNOOPING through someone elses computer. ask him about his relationships and tell him yours too. if his answer is pretty reasonable then trust him. if not, ask his parents about it and get the best details. also, if he goes out late or acts suspicious... then u know u need to be on the case! hope i could help!
2007-07-01 08:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sorry you found out after the fact. but everybody does what they choose to do. your gonna have to decide what YOU should do. no one can decide that for you. trusting him? he'd have to show he can be trusted! it dont come easy! how do you know for sure that the picture was after and not before? not saying believe everything thrown at you, cuz you should keep 1 eye open but do you really know?
2007-07-01 08:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by warrior*in*the*making 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you what I did because he done it to me after he promise that he will not look for another woman. I found out after we got married, I was angry because he lied and kept it from me, but I didn't hate him or even call it cheating,because we weren't married then. What he did before we got married is not my concern because I'm not wearing his ring.
But now he did it again after 23 years, it's a diff. story...
2007-07-01 12:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋