a few months ago a male friend of mine approached me about dating i didnt feel the same so he agreed to remain in a friendship.we talk pretty often and last night he told me that he isnt my friend but my associate,im not sure why he would say this, was he insulting me? any thoughts?
2007-07-01 07:50:58 · 15 answers · asked by aleah2515 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is just mad that you don't want him..its not an insult. Its just his way of protecting himself, to put a barrier(wall) up.
2007-07-01 07:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by amasmomma05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let's use some common sense. A man that wants to date a woman, becomes rejected, and still attempts to maintain the friendship is NOT a friend. The reason he became your friend is to date you. When that failed, he thought he'd eventually get you to change your feelings towards him. Although most females don't like to think that men are only their friends for such reasons, its reality.
Now he called you his "associate" which has many definitions. According to dictionary.com, it could mean:
2. to join as a companion, partner, or ally: to associate oneself with a cause.
Or it could mean:
5. to keep company, as a friend, companion, or ally: He was accused of associating with known criminals.
So I wouldn't say it was an insult. He's calling you a friend, but could also be implying that you're more than a friend, depending on the meaning.
I suggest you ask him what his intentions are. His wordplay implies that he doesn't want the "friend" lable because he's still seeking to woo you. By calling him an associate, he's asking you to still consider him as more than a friend. If he refuses to give you a clear answer, its time to move on.
2007-07-01 14:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you work with him? If not, I'd say he's misusing the word "associate," and instead means to say "acquaintance." In either case, it doesn't sound like an insult to me.
2007-07-01 14:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships are based on trust and he doesn't trust you or he's trying to get you concerned and start asking questions and assuring him that you are friends which he won't "believe" to keep the game going as a perverted way of flirting with you.
2007-07-01 14:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by shrugger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words he is saying he is "aquainted" with you. Maybe he is afraid if he refers to you as his friend he will try and take it a bit further than just friends and this could be his way of convincing himself that you are not interersted in being more than "just friends"
2007-07-01 15:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me as a boy it would be embarrassing for me to be rejected by a girl who i might of liked so no hes not insulting you but hes maybe just embarrassed
2007-07-01 14:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by ASOOMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably was just having a bad day.. leave him alone for a week or two and it'll work out.
2007-07-01 14:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by zyfoxmaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he couldn't stand being rejected and now he is acting like an azz..
2007-07-01 14:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it was not an insult he is just sore that you turned him down and still his friend and you are ok with it and he is not.
2007-07-01 14:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by Roosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be hurt by your refusal and no longer considers you a good friend.
2007-07-01 14:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋