I was just wondering if when a baby is brought into a relationship does it mean most of your love is spent on them and you find it hard to have the romantic, loving relationship still with the partner?
2007-07-01 07:37:29 · 18 answers · asked by Nay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This happens a lot when a woman has a child - that's why so many men end up walking out on their woman. The woman will say this is immature on the man's part however, how would you feel if suddenly, you were put to the bottom of the pile in the household and just treated like a walking wallet! I have seen it happen with friends of mine.
2007-07-01 07:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A mother's love is different and vast. You will find it can be consuming because if you are a good mother you will be prepared to nurture, provide for and protect that child at the expense of your own life.
However, the love for your mate is different and should be just as vast but it comes more a little harder. You are two adults with very different backgrounds and daily routines. You two are supposed to be mature enough to know that you need to make time for each other over and above the child. Your relationship has to come before the baby's in order to keep the family emotionally healthy. Your relationship will determine the type your child grows up to have so work on loving each other and showing that relationship of your children.
2007-07-01 14:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think gregory makes a good point..its kind of inexplicable btu it like having more than one child you wonder can you ever love subsequent children but when it happens you just do youcant describe it or define it.
with your partner its a different kind of love and as adults the baby has to come first but in a way its nt first you love together and if you have a good partner some how it blossoms and grows i mean the exhaustion may not make great for a physical relationship in the beginning but as a couple your dimensions change for a while , but do you love them any less not really , unless they atart showing traits as a father you suddenly find unappealing , saying that i used to look at the adoration in my husbands eyes as he held our newborns just made me love him so much more...
Now my eldest is a 13 yr old and evey time i look at both of them i want to strangle them .....why oh why didi i get the most rebellious teenager in the world....
dont do it ....lol
you could still well love your partner though , it depend son both of you and your characters , it can take more effort , but if you both want to you can do it one way or another we all muddle through
2007-07-01 16:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by britchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the most ridiculous question I've ever heard. I'm sorry to say that. When 2 people who love each other enough to bring a child into the world why would you suddenly stop loving them or love them less? You should love them even more for the happiness that raising a child and producing a beautiful child together will bring you. If you just had this baby and your beginning to feel resentment or questionable feelings about things, then maybe you should seek help from a professional. PPD is a very serious illness that needs to dealt with immediately.
2007-07-01 14:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by rdfdjd 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, luckily we all have a capacity to increase the love we feel and are therefore capable of loving partner's ,children parents friends more children neices nephews dogs cats and even hamsters.
There are different types of love though and the love you feel for a child is different to what you feel for a partner
2007-07-01 14:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by mistyblue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I left my partner when I fell pregnant with my son because he tried to make me have an abortion against my will and has since cut us off - he doesn't know how to be a dad so yes - in this instance I love my son more than I could love any man, he is my whole world.
2007-07-01 14:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it doesnt. Love never dies out, if it is true love, and you can always make more. A little one is brought into your lives, and you love eachother more because you both love the child. This is because you have both made more love to love eachother and the child. So it shouldnt, and wouldnt make you love your parnter less
2007-07-01 15:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Leelah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shouldn't but it might tend to happen.. its something that needs to be discussed between the two parents... a plan for when the baby comes that they will still have time for eachother.... like arrange for someone to babysit once a week for a few hours so just the two of yall can just get away.
2007-07-01 14:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by pisces_dreamer06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the quality of love is different
each human being is capable of giving a lot of love.
partner gets a passionate treatment and child affectionate.
2007-07-01 14:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by emmy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not like a pizza with only 8 slices. Your ability to love doesn't change because there are more people to love.
2007-07-01 14:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by liberty11235 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋