my mom has been always yelling at me lately, like today, i was asking her something and she didnt reply, i kept asking her, then she just blew up outta no where. i think she is stressed out, but still at least have courtsey to respond. today i think im gonna stay out late, and not RESPOND to her and her calls, i want her to know how i feel. its hurts, esp. if i didnt even DO ANYTHING..i just asked her something. btw, im 20y/o
2007-07-01 07:25:45 · 14 answers · asked by vernoica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your mom is obviously very stressed out about something, so the last thing she needs right now, is you rebelling. leave her alone. give her a little bit of time to work out what ever is bothering her. or ask her if something's wrong, or how you can help.
good luck!!
2007-07-01 07:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are 20 you should be concerned about what is stressing her out. You could be of some help by not focusing on yourself and find out what is going on in her life. BTW are you working? Helping out with your share of the load around the house? Paying rent ? Going to school and making good grades ? These are some questions you should be asking yourself. At 20 you are an adult and your parent(s) could use some thoughtfulness on your part. She shouldn't be running around doing your laundry cleaning up after you and treating you like your her "child". Staying out and not letting her know where you are and not responding to her is not the adult way of handling this situation. You should be more considerate of what maybe going on that she might would like to talk to you about it. What was it you were asking something she had already given a response to? Be mature and think about how you feel when you are having a bad a day and you snap at others not meaning to.
2007-07-01 14:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay out late and not answer her calls. Is it just you and your Mom? That could be part of it. Sometimes when we are younger, we go on and on about things that are pretty trivial in an adults mind. Maybe she is just blanking out when you do this. I'd just say, Mom, am I talking too much, cause I don't think you are listening. I know you are 20. But, she may just have a lot on her plate right now. I'd talk to her and she if you can help her be less stressed.
2007-07-01 14:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by non o u biznis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your Mom is stressed, please do add to her stress by staying out late and not answering your phone. Sit down with her today and ask her how you can help. She may be overwhelmed with financial problems, the house is a mess, she hates her job and is scare she will be fired, or she is worried about you. At age 20, you should either be in college or working and making plans to move to an apartment. Talk to your Mom and find out what is going on with her.
2007-07-01 14:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mother is stressed, you won't be helping her out by staying out late. give her some time.
or try approaching her differently by asking about her or if there's anything you can do to help her out. Your mother should respond to you but sometimes people don't know how to relieve stress. When you do start talking again, then explain to her that it hurts when she yells at you all the time and don't answer.
2007-07-01 14:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by panther 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate to what you are talking about. I'm 22 and my mother and I are very close. She is seeing a married man (I know, I know) and we disagree about it. She yells at me because I told her that I don't care what she does but she does have to respect that I don't want to hear about it.
*sigh*
Anyway, my mom is a yeller. Me? Nah, not so much. So, I calmly say, "When you want to talk to me like an adult, fine. Otherwise, I have things I need to do." Then hang up or walk away. She gets the point. It's tough, but this age that we are both in is difficult. You kinda have to introduce yourself to your mother as your adult self little by little.
I hope that helps, hon. Have a great day!
2007-07-05 14:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by d_nanner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrong's don't make a right. Write her note and explain to her how you feel. At the end of the note tell her she can talk to you about how she is feeling when she's ready. It's apparent she is stressed out (or drinking) so let her be for awaile, your 20yo you should be well enough to take care of yourself.
2007-07-01 14:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by rdfdjd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sound like she is over her head with stress. Don't stay out. its only going to make it worse,it you do stay out, answer her calls. You need to sit down with her and tell her how you are feeling, and ask her what is wrong with her. Remember two wrong don't make it right.
2007-07-05 13:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably act like you're 20 and not like you're a preteen. Your mom is probably really stressed about something and you acting like a child is not going to help that problem. Grow up and act as the adult you want to be treated like.
2007-07-01 14:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not do anything to p/o her any more than she is, I think she has allot of things on her mind, when you want to talk to her, sit down somewhere and have a calm conversation.
2007-07-01 14:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋