I'll be really thankfull if you can describe me how much pain it has,I have read so many articles about defloration on internet,but I wanna hear it from a GIRL who experienced it before! Girls can understand each other better!my boyfriend(later husband!) is really caring but I'm still worried.Thanks so so much dear freinds!
2007-07-01 07:02:06 · 6 answers · asked by sashly317 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Have a friend defile you before you get married. You don't want to put your husband through all that screaming and blood on the honeymoon?
2007-07-01 07:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mister Bald 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the woman. I've heard people say it didn't hurt at all, but it does for some (and, yes, if your hymen hasn't been broken by some other sort of physical activity, you will probably bleed, so keep some tissues on hand for afterwards). Whether it hurts or not depends on how, uh, girthy he is, how naturally tight you are (having used a tampon will help a bit), and if you've had any other sexual experience using insertion (like fingers, etc.) Sorry to be a bit graphic!
Don't be scared, though, if you're afraid it will hurt -- there are ways to make it better! I have a couple suggestions to make it easier on you!
1. Use lube. Most people don't think of this at first, and it's really no big deal! You can pick some cheap stuff at any drugstore, but it will feel a little tacky. If you're willing to put a few more dollars into it, buy a container of Liquid Silk. It feels very natural, and it's water-based, so it works with condoms. Silicone-based lubes also work with condoms, and they tend to be a bit more slick than water-based. If you're not going to use one (which means you should be sure he is clean and you should either be on the pill or wanting a baby), oil-based lubes are the slickest. You can find silicone and water based lubes on drugstore.com, but might need to journey to a more "specialized" store for an oil-based lube. Also, don't use a home substitute. Vaseline is not compatible with condoms, and anything called "______ oil" is not something you should stick up there.
2. Make sure you are as aroused as you can be when the act of penetration starts! Don't rush it! It's your wedding night -- enjoy it! Let him play around a little. You will naturally lubricate and your opening will get wider.
3. It seems that everyone always loses her virginity with her man on top -- but it's not the best way to do it. If you're on top, there are many advantages. It is the widest position, so it is less likely to hurt. Also, you are in control! You can take it as slowly as you want, so you can slowly lower yourself onto him and then wait a minute if you want.
Some women are weirded out by lube, or by "unconventional" (read: not missionary) positions, but they really are no big deal at all. If you trust your man enough to marry him, he will want you to be as comfortable as possible the first time you make love. Sex with the man you love is a wonderful experience that not only brings you together physically, but emotionally, and I guarantee that it will not be as uniting of an experience if you're not comfortable.
Good luck! Congrats on the wedding. :)
2007-07-01 07:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As clinical as possible:
The hymen is the thin membrane that sometimes covers the opening to the vagina if you're a virgin. I say "sometimes" because, even if you haven't had sex, the hymen can do a bit of a disappearing act due to an overzealous workout at the gym, horseback riding, tampons, and even passionate "heavy petting" with your boyfriend. (It's not an impenetrable barrier, anyway, as it has holes to allow menstrual blood to escape.)
When you're turned on, the uterus and cervix rise, lengthening the vaginal tube. When his penis penetrates, the walls of the vagina stretch to accommodate the difference.
For some, the first few times make you feel sore, as it's been an unused muscle or even hurt, if you aren't properly lubericated, like the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and your body isn't ready.
2007-07-01 08:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to it at all. If you have ever stuck yourself with a pin, it's about that much. Where people get these tales of tearing and burning and awful pain you just have to endure, I have no idea. And you bleed as much as though you'd stuck yourself with a pin, too. Other body fluids make it look like much more.
He's a caring man--you'll have no worries so relax and enjoy. Congratulations of your marriage.
2007-07-01 07:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the lube idea and being on top is not so bad either. take your time and it will be fine. If you have your ears pierced you will have no trouble at all and you bleed more during your period than your first time. Good luck and enjoy sex with your husband is a bonding and wonderful thing. Also Congrats on waiting untill your Wedding Night and getting Married.
2007-07-01 08:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by PD Princess 7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not bother about it. It is a natural process for all human beings.
2007-07-01 07:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋