2007-07-01 06:57:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because they feel that there's no one else out there for them...
And speaking from experience, a lot of the times, they don't even KNOW they're being mentally abused...
I was in a relationship for over a year with this guy... now that I broke up with him, I feel that I have been mentally abused. He toyed with my head so many times... he would have an answer for EVERYTHING to the point he would manipulate me into believing I was just making things up in my head. And, since I was in love with him, I believed anything he said.
He ended up ignoring me for like a week or two... never returned my one phonecall... he EVENTUALLY called and never even brought up the fact I called him and he, as usual, came up with another excuse and made it seem so believable.. that I believed him. It makes me sick that I just now realized that. Oh, and then I found pictures of him all over another girl. And I'm glad to say I am no longer with him and that I am a better, stronger, and free-er woman. And I learned a lot.
2007-07-01 07:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're used to it. They can't imagine living a better life, and they think that the one they have can only change for the worse. They admire the guy and want to stay with him for his "good qualities" and the good times they have together. They are afraid of being alone. They are afraid of what may happen if they break up with him. There are lots of reasons. Sometimes they think about leaving him, but decide to just wait it out.
2007-07-01 14:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cos a lot of the time they lose so much confidence that they come to rely on the abusive person as they think no one else would like them. also if you suffer from abuse it grinds you down til you're not the same person and you can become afraid of other people so again rely on your abuser for things. it's easy to tell someone to just leave their partner but until you've been in that situation you won't understand how hard it is.
2007-07-01 14:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by CUTEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
USUALLY the abusive person makes them feel that they deserve the abuse somehow or that if they leave the abusive person they won't be able to survive or that the abusive person will harm someone the victim loves, or whatever. It's a mind game, I think.
2007-07-01 14:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Because they think it is their fault.
2) They have seen their mothers be treated the same way.
3) Low self-esteem.
4) They don't have the will to leave.
5) They think they can change him. Make him better.
6) They think they have no other options.
7) They think it happens in ALL relationships.
2007-07-01 14:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea.As far as I'm concerned ,I would never stay with such a man(thank God I haven't gone through such horrible experiences,guess I'm lucky).There are many things that I can forgive in order to make a relationship work,but I would never ever forgive a violent man.
2007-07-01 14:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with their lack of self-esteem and self-worth. They do not believe themselves to deserve better. They are prisoners of hope--hope that these guys will change or that they can be changed. A large majority of the time, it will not happen.
2007-07-01 14:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of reasons,because we are taught he's your man,stand by your man,because we believe we deserve it,no one decent could ever love us,because we hope he will change every time he swears he will,because we are afraid to face the cruel world alone...essentially it's gender education that screws us up.
2007-07-01 14:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Barbara D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we think we cannot do any better or deserve this
2007-07-04 07:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋