My son is turning 18 soon and has recently begun dating. However his first girlfriend has very small breasts, probably an A-cup. Now god bless his heart, he loves her ever so much, but I'd like to set a firm precedent to avoid future heartbreak.
I wouldn't want him to be ridiculed by his friends and classmates for 'going out with a flatty' as I would have been back in my younger years. Unendowed females are also generally emotionally unstable due to low self-esteem (I don't want a teenage drama queen on my son's hands!)
My biggest worry is that many years down the line, their female children would be 'flat chicks' as well. I'd like my son to be a spittin' image of his old man, and to help him avoid some obvious mistakes.
Should I forbid him from dating her or let him figure it out for himself over time?
2007-07-01 06:50:53 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
If you feel that strongly about it, maybe you should shell out for augmentation surgery for the poor girl!
for the folks giving me thumbs down, I was being sarcastic!
2007-07-01 06:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by neil k 3 · 13⤊ 5⤋
Alright lady you need to have your head examined! Your son is 18 and he is gonna date whoever he wants, NOT who mommy chooses! DUH! Besides I was DD at 18 and I was VERY self conscious about it and hated them. Still do at 26, maybe being small chested isn't so bad after all! You need to get over the physical aspects of this as a woman and look at why they are really together! Apparently he doesn't care about her bra size, obviously neither should you!
2016-05-20 02:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you were never an individual and ran with the crowd. A follower not a leader. Why would you want your son to be that way? If she is young, her breasts will continue to grow, she may not be an A cup forever. Teaching your son to be influenced by the people around him is not good parenting. What about doing the right thing? Being yourself, standing out. All these are qualities that will build self-esteem, not knock it down. The apparent obvious mistake I see, is you teaching your son to concentrate on the outside instead of the inside. Hopefully he will learn from your mistakes and be himself instead of one of the people who blend in instead of standing out.
2007-07-01 10:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 14⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but you sound like you are the one with the low self esteem. if your son loves her what the hell does it matter what size of bra she wears? Isnt that a little shallow and ridiculous? I mean if he loves her the way she is, shouldn't that be more important...you don't love someone for the way they look!!! You love them for all the qualitites that makes that person unique.....Is she good to him? Is she honetst and trustworthy? those are the things you should worry about more that herwearing a size a bra...I don't want to be rude, but shouldn't you allow your son to make the descion weather or not he is attracted to his own girlfriend. I mean I have heard of parents being worried because they feel like the girl is using their son, or that she is a tramp. or that she doesn't treat him good, but this is the first time I have ever heard of a parent saying that the girls cup size was a factor. Maybe back when you were in school, ppl were like that, but today I doubt very seriously if his friends are going to tease him because of his girlfriends breast size. And that thing you said about her having a low self esteem becuase she is small chested....where in the world did you get that from? That is the furthest from the truth......It sounds as though they love each other....just leave them alone and let them be happy...
2007-07-01 07:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 28⤊ 0⤋
Wait, I thought the last girl was "overweight" and you didn't want your son going out with an overweight girl because of what it would do to his self esteem. And wasn't there some other question about wanting to disown your son due to his dating some other girl? How many girls is your imaginary son dating? Furthermore, how many of these similar questions have you already drawn up?
2007-07-01 12:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else on here, but I couldn't resist adding in my own 2 cents. I am a small chested girl, but no guy I've ever dated has been ridiculed for being with me! My boyfriends were envied by their friends. And girls with smaller breasts are not necessarily insecure. In reality, they are the ones who get men who care about more than sex, so they end up getting hurt less. I could say a lot more, but I don't need to.
P.S. I read some of your Q&A--Why are you asking questions like "How can I force my daughter to become a homosexual?" and then "My daughter is a homosexual, how do I disown her? I cannot have such a person in my life!" You're sick. I doubt if I'm the first person to tell you this, but if I am, I won't be the last.
2007-07-01 07:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 28⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god i can't beleive this! I am a woman with breasts smaller than an a cup, I am a double a, and I am with the man of my dreams, who not only takes me for who I am, but wouldn't change me for the world, I'm glad your son found someone to love! and I'm sorry his father is a perverted man who doesn't care about his son's life. Because REAL MEN, don't break up with women because of their breast size! Your pathetic if all you do with your time is worry about your son's girls breasts. You need a life, and a heart. I'm very sorry for your wife...
2007-07-01 14:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by irish hippie 2 · 22⤊ 0⤋
Your son is 18 he is an adult. He can make choices. the choice he made si his, back off and let him live his life unless he ask for advice don't give ti t him especially for such a picayune thing as breast size. They are mammary glands for crying out loud, if hes looking for big boobs, he was raised by one (his father) let him fall in love with the person not her body, that makes him very shallow if hes looking for a girl with only big breasts.
2007-07-01 07:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by Combatvet 2 · 14⤊ 0⤋
maybe that used to be the way things were but they aren't like that anymore! breast size has nothing to do with whether or not she is a drama queen and if his friends want to "laugh" at him for his choice then you should see that he relizes that they aren't his friends after all. you should be proud that your son isn't so superficial and shallow and you shouldn't go anywhere near trying to encourage such stereo-typical behavior! talk about the student surpassing the teacher!
2007-07-01 07:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 17⤊ 0⤋
I think you are crazy most likely. I am wondering what you look like? I would suggest finding a hobby or something to occupy your tiny mind besides worrying about your sons girlfriends boob size. That is the oddest question I have ever heard on here.
2007-07-01 08:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 23⤊ 0⤋
Why are you interested in your Son's GF's boob. Its not like you are the one whos gona.....never mind. Its your son and he makes his decision with his own likings. Plus arent you a catholic, since when did you start thinking about breasts seriously.
2007-07-01 09:39:19 · answer #11 · answered by s2a_s3z 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋