My husband and I have been separated for a few months now. We spoke about separating for a few months and coming back together to work on things. Well, a month after I left and went to see him, he told me it was best we stay friends. The apartment we live in, my name is still under the lease, and I still have a the keys. It's been about three months since I've been there. Since then he moved his mother in and put her on the lease. I heard girls on his voicemail and he even stopped giving me money that we agreed on.
Last week, one of his friends told me that he is talking trash about me... Him and his mother. When I try to call, he ignores my call and even got as far as letting his family cussed me out over the phone. When I call him on his phone. I want to confront them, but I feel funny about going back there. should I go and confront them or let it be?
2007-07-01 06:49:08 · 15 answers · asked by ATLCHI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
file for divorce, your better off with a jerk like that
2007-07-01 06:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by RUSSELLL 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce if things don't change in the next couple of weeks. Why be trapped in this marriage to someone who obviously is not concerned about your feelings? Sounds like he needs to grow up AND cut the apron strings. If your name is on the lease, and he has added the mother to the lease, get with the landlord and make it very clear you did nothing to approve of that situation and make sure that with the change in the lease agreement, your previous commitment is no longer valid. I believe that once a contract like that has been altered and not initialed by all parties involved, it becomes VOID, but I would first ask the landlord, then if it is an issue consult a DIVORCE attorney and have HIM or HER address the issue. What a pig!
2007-07-01 13:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is moving on and the mother is there for security to make certain you do not move back in. He doesn't want to go forward anymore. Do not dirty your hands with these people; they're talking trash because that is what they are. Do not give these kind of people the time of day.
Now, find a lawyer. Remember that they will take payments so don't worry about fees right now. Just get out of this marriage.
2007-07-01 13:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a mama's boy and he just used the separation excuse as a way to get you out of the apartment. He probably never had any intentions of getting back together. Get an attorney to find out your rights and let your attorney do the communicating for you. DO IT TODAY because timing is important! Stop listening to anything this man has to say because he is just looking out for his own best interests. Good luck and just keep in mind you're better off on your own.
2007-07-01 14:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be. File for divorce first. Chances are that sooner or later he will file for divorce with the reasoning of abandonment issues. He's playing with you and should be let go. Is the sepperation a legal one? If so, then get yourself a "friend" and make sure that he knows it. Hense giving him the chance to feel what you are feeling. Normally I would not recoment such activity. However he now has his family brainwashed any way to the point of trashing you. Give up as he is a lost cause. Just my opinion.
2007-07-01 14:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi-
It sounds like a bad situation. It may make you feel better to confront them, but it could also make the situation worse. As bad as this sounds, it seems like he is moving on with his life. I think it would benefit you, if you did the same. You can not make someone love you, or want to be with you. And you should be most concerned with your happiness, not his!
2007-07-01 13:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by bshell44 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him and his mother have the Apt, go and get you an good lawyer and divorce him!!! Then go out and find your self an real man , not momma boy's..
2007-07-01 15:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by lavell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let me tell you that i have been throught that so i know how you feel,When he lts them talk to you like that its disrespectful and thats not right.You to were married that is your apartment as much as it is his. You need to go back there and put everybody out and tell him if he dont want to pay bills he can go to.Never let anybody talk to you like you are crap because then they will treat you like you are crap.
2007-07-01 14:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by neesha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and move on stop waisting your life on someone who dose not want you,"see a lawyer now".
2007-07-01 13:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by larry B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, file for divorce, immediately separating your financial responsibilities from his, don't look back, you deserve better - go and get it.
2007-07-01 13:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he lets his family disrespect you, he has no respect for you.
Move on...he's obviously already done so
and...get your name off the lease and give back they key
2007-07-01 13:53:11 · answer #11 · answered by jgrimpe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋